cheating partners

[mr.foz]

My partner has cheated on me and im gutted. She denied it at first and lied for ages calling me paranoid etc. When i spoke to the other person he admitted it. Now she admits it..............................such a liar as well as a .............
Does anyone think i should forgive her and move on? She has said sorry, and i believe her, i think, but it is not the first time and i am not sure i could go through this again. Do leopards ever change their spots..........???

[4getmenot]

I dont think this woman will ever have any sign of commitment. and has proved that.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i am afraid that if you feel as though someone is doing something wrong, then thye usually are.
All woman say the paranoid thing to make it seem as though you are.
If you have any doubt about her then you should move on.
You gave her the green light to go ahead and do it again when you took her back the times before.
I think she could change, but it seems like she doesnt want to.
The way she sees you is just 'someone there for her when she needs you '...

[Paul_Rook]

Leave her ! i have been cheated on and i stayed friends she moved on and i havent, she still treats me bad so leave and never see her again it will be better in the long run.

[mr.foz]

Thanks to all of you for your answers. As it has happened before and as most of my friends are also disgusted with her i think i only have one option. She has to go. Yes there are kids involved but as someone said, it is not a good example to set them. Dont think it was my fault at all, unless letting her do wot she wanted and totally trusting her was wrong. That i think is the crux of my decision. Dont think i will ever trust her again now. As you may tell by my posting times i work nights and so have now to worry if she is still up to anything at all......
On her side she is genuinely very sorry and has shed many a tear crying over it. She says she cant explain why she did it, there was several people back at her friends house and she was drunk and ended up sleeeping with this man. When i left her she sent me a text saying she could not live without me and was going to end it all. Told her if she did she was a worse person than i already thought and was selfish aswell. Thanks for your comments they do help.

[nadcookie]

I personally couldn't stay with a cheater but I'm kind of unpredictable! But i dont think i would id probably try but wouldnt work out! Think of it this way if she really loved you would she have cheated on you AGAIN! I mean once maybe id forgive a second time i wouldnt theres only so much truth a person can mean when they say sorry and if theyve done it before obvisiously the first time they werent sorry and this time there probably not either!!

But im just trying to help and give my opinion!

Good luck XxX

[topogigo]

First of all i would if i were you, thank those that would ransack YOUR question for an argument, and to be quite honest, consider whether you are going to feel right when you are not with her, when some guy looks at her, or when you see, as they say, corresponding disasters every night on the TV.
I went through it, it hurt like hell for 21 years it made me bitter and unhappy towards her. You could leave and salvage something like friendship, stay and worry or just move on!