I am now married to an older woman. We started going out 8 years ago, and tied the knot last year. Contrary to popular belief, the woman does not like having a toy boy but feels embarressed. Iam 30 and my wife is 54.
She has always felt guilty about my age and was not sure about the relationship. Talk through everything and take things slowly. If you are in love, try and work at the relationship (as you have to do with all reltationships) and have fun.
My wife also has 2 kids (23 & 25). She has never told her family my age, and they haven't asked. They know that we are happy together and both gave their blessing when we married.