I need help!

[Rubyrose]

Seriously! I need help from someone who doesn't know me!
Just give me advice... and I will listen.. (I won't argue).. But give the advice politely at least... :o)

I fancy a guy who is married as you know. I have liked him for a year and nothing has ever come of it. A year ago he was just a guy I worked with, who I thought was nice but really knew nothing about. 6 months ago he was a guy I worked with, spoke to a fair bit but other than interaction at work, nothing else was going on. Maybe some light flirting and we'd buy eachother sweets and stuff now and then.
Now.... he is someone I work with, but spend most of my working time with as we are now working on some projects together. We go on lunch together at least once a week. He will stand at my desk for ages and ages chatting away to me. He prepares me little lunches sometimes, I do the same. We buy eachother things when we go on lunch.. but nothing has happened.

Last week I had invited a few people from work, out to celebrate my birthday.. (we celebrated it last Saturday night). I never invited him because he lives about an hour drive away so I knew there would be no point. Then at the last minute on the Friday I emailed him and invited him. He said he was already out in the town I was going to and I should give him my number and we can meet up.

So Saturday came and I was out with the girls. I got a text from a girl from who used to work with us, telling me which pub she was in with her friends so we finished our drinks and went and met her. When we got there, he was there too... on the next table with his mates. He called me over and we all got chatting and me and my mates, ended up spending the whole night with him and his mates.. well from about 10pm - 2am. His mates came to the same club we were going to and he was very flirty and pervy with me and my mates.. not the same guy I know at work but it didn't stop me liking him.

[cazzz1975]

If you are happy to have an affair with him, expect to have to consider looking for a new job eventually...

[bobtheturkey]

anyone mention the pregnant wife's feelings in all this when she finds out?

[cazzz1975]

Im sure her feelings will be the last to be considered, just before the kids feelings

[Rubyrose]

Everyone at work knows I like him and some of them encourage me and some of them tell me to try and forget him but most of them say he is the one in the wrong and he is leading me on.

I know everyone is right and I know I'd be saying the same if I was an outsider looking in. And I know it's no different from any other 'I fancy a married man' situation. I do know all this. I just need help!

[bobtheturkey]

yep cazz just noticed her and the unborn kid were hardly mentioned throughout it all, what do they matter as long as two people get their leg over

[Rubyrose]

Oh Bob fck off! I'm not in the mood. I have mentioned her.

[Rubyrose]

Infact...... she is the reason for the flipping Q!!!! If she wasn't being considered at all then I'd have f*cked him ages ago!

[cazzz1975]

knowing you fancy him and being the b**** that broke up his marriage are two different things, they wont be gunning for him they will be gunning for you, women can be very like that even so called friends.

Like I said if he is a decent guy he will end his relationship first before he gets with you. I bet he does'nt....

[cazzz1975]

have to say though bob, makes him a great catch that he has no interest in his children....

[NORMANTHEDOG]

shag the ar$e off him and me if you want