Love for birth mother

[yellowjacket]

I did not feel great love when i met my birth mother & brothers and sisters, as they expressed theirs for me..I love many, but felt only interested...friends find this very odd.

[MrsCheeks]

I don't think this is odd at all. You didn't grow up with her so you did not have the time to grow to love her. I don't feel anything for my eldest brother as he is 12 and a half yrs older than me and left for the RN when he was 17 ... I was only 5yrs old. He was not around for my growing up and he is really just a stranger to me. Give it time and you will probably find that in years to come you realise that there is a feeling of love for your new family ... afterall, that is what they are. A new family for you to learn about and understand. Hope this makes you feel al little more secure about your present feelings towards them, and if your friends still dont get it explain gently to them that until they have been in a similar situation, they cant understand the emotions you will be going through ... albeit they are trying to. Hugs to you. xxx

[evolution]

I can't see why this could be seen as odd. How can you love people you only just met? I agree with Mrs Cheeks. Give it time. Like you say you are interested in your new family. This is great as if you're interested in getting to know them you'll either end up loving them or simply having them as great acquaintances like many others!

[jills]

I also don't find this odd. I think it's odd that your friends think you SHOULD feel love for a group of people who you have only just met. You don't know them, they are strangers, why would you automatically feel love for them, just because they are related to you? I think being interested is a good first step. Just go at your own pace, and feel the way you want to feel. Be patient with your friends, they maybe can't understand your situation. I would imagien others in yoru situation would tell you that they felt the same (a friend of mine who was adopted certainly did when she first met her birth mother). Good luck in getting to know your new family, if that's what you decide to do. xx