Chivalry

[miffy63]

Do women still expect, or like, a man to be chivalrous or more importantly do men like to be chivalrous towards women? It seems to be a lost art, at least with many of the men I know, I'd quite like to be treated with care and consideration.
I know you men out there are probably thinking that we women have brought it on ourselves and that we can't have everything our way, but I think the world was a better place to live in when a man opened the car door for you and then helped you out, when he gave up his seat on the bus or paid for dinner.
What do you think?

[raysparx1]

Hi Max, mamma, smudge & wingnut., well I am so glad you all agree that men should behave like that, but normally when I say something nice to a lady on here I am called all sorts of names, you can have one max, or if pirate wants them both I have a take one get one free offer on at the moment, just say the word.

[~max~]

One will be enough! Thanks for your kind offer!
What's the secret word then?

Please? lol :O)

[raysparx1]

Hi max you got it, one of them on his way as we speak, if you want to know what they look like ask Julie, she has seen them, so I think has whiskey and sash, have good weekend all, bye now xx

[~max~]

Oooh thanks Ray! Should I expect the delivery man soon then? ;O)
Have a good evening yourself!

[Lonnie]

I have a slight problem, like Ray, i'm in my fifties, must be the way we were brought up, I do all the things like stand when a lady enters the room, pull the chair so she can sit down, hold open the car door, etc, etc.


My problem, is that I can't get used to the modern age of supposed equality, which for a lot of people, nullifies chivalry.

My workmates call me a Dinasaur, but I don't mind, I like treating ladies like Queens, makes them feel good, makes me feel good.

[whiffey]

{group hug} lovely

[Kleiber]

I agree with all of you - it's so nice to be treated like a lady, by a gentleman. My hubby was lovely & always treated me with respect (even though I, too, am a strong woman!). I hope I've brought our son up the same. It was nice the other day, when one of K Jnr's mates held a door open for me (they're 18yrs old). I believe in equal pay for equal work, but us girls are still the ones who give birth (if it was blokes, the human race would be extinct by now -they couldn't stand the pain! I'm waiting for replies from you guys on this one!!) and even in this modern day, still look after our men-folk. Ooh, I've probably started something now....

[beryllium]

Whiffsters??? shove up!!! :)) xxx

Mr B is as chivalrous as they come. Atm... he's cooking supper/dinner/grub.... he's done all the housework today to WOW!!! factor 8, he opens the car door for me always..... be it me driving or passenger lol....

If I want summink ironed??? yep.... eeees the man.....

He always pays for dinner out, and in!!!

He is my champion, and his list of goodness is endless.....

:-) xxx

[Aschenbach]

(taking 'chivalry' to mean manners in general not the historical concept)

Yes, we all appear perfectly courteous when offered the three most clich�d examples (doors seats and bills) but what about the courtesy to return calls / emails, keep in touch with old friends, always say hello and goodbye, give compliments etc.

Male or female, can we honestly say we do this or do we give the excuse that it's because we're too busy? I can't say I do, although I do hold a door or two open once a month.

[chacha2chins]

Alrighty...this is the 2nd time this happened to me. I posted an answer and it got lost somewhere in cyberspace. So I'm reposting.

I agree with Big Mama; it;'s all about good manners.
My mother taught it to me and I taught it to my children.
Sadly, or maybe funny, my daughter at age 7 was invited to a pajama party.
The adults were so intrigued with her good manners they offered her things all night just so they could hear her say 'yes, please' or 'no, thank you' without an adult prompting her.
My son and husband always hold open doors for me, carry heavy things and reach for high objects (I'm a bit of a shorty).
And it's also about respect which goes both ways. I also do what I can to take care and nurture the love I have for the men in my life.
Independance for women is one thing; being courteous and respectful is another.

[China Doll]

I'm not sure whether what you describe is chilvary or just common courtesy.

But yes, I do like all those things except for paying for the meal, I prefer to go 50-50 on that.

However, it does appear to be a lost art.

[beryllium]

Common.
What a wonderful word to pre courtesy. :-)