love with cousin!! pleae help!!!

[zack12]

hi i falll in love with my nearest cousin. when we meet we holding our hands. when we are watching movie i touch her body parts like lips,waist,hips,massage on her back, and she allows me to do this. she never stop me.she stop me one time when i put my hand under her pantie and when i try to massage her underarm. i love her and i think she love me because she allows me to touching her. should i have to tell her i love u?? please help. i am 16 and she is 18. and i am not want to marry her. i just want her for life that no one will know. but how can i ask her to do that?? will she accept me??

[saxy_jag]

I don't know of anyone here in Leicester who's ever been asked.

But I think we're all jumping to conclusions here. Zack never made any mention of wanting to have babies with his cousin. Not everyone who loves someone wants their babies.

[dot.hawkes]

I shall recount a tale:
Many many many years ago, well it must have been 1946 a long time before i was born, my dad fell in love with his 17 year old cousin Jeanne, they lived in Cheshire and she was his dad's niece, his Mum's Mum got wind of their dates, someone saw them in the pictures one night and told his maternal grandma, who ran the family , anyway, she yold her daughter, his mum, that they should put a stop to it as they would have 'cabbages for children' (her exact words apparently) and so the two sets of parents set about splotting them up, my dad's parents moved to West Yorkshire, along way off, anmd he had to go too, that stopped it.
Luckily he met my Mum (who lived at Blackshaw ) in 1948 and fell in ,love with her at first sight and never looked back.

[Shadow Man]

Chesire is touching Wales!!!!!

I rest my case.

PS cabbages is a term I have not heard in years. Bless your Grandmother's heart dotty.

[jno]

something very Russky about this post methinks, or am I being too suspicious?

[dot.hawkes]

It's definately suss i know, but so it that other one with theat daft teen person posting garbage

[Goodsoulette]

the touching of the panties makes it sound suspicious doesnt it.

[Shadow Man]

perhaps the 18 year ol is the ruskie, and poor old incest boy is actually her cousin???

[gateaux coco]

There are loads and loads of people who have intimate relationships with their first cousins. There are loads of websites on it too. I think one is called Kissing Cousins or something, I saw it years ago.

Now, every person (well, adult) is entitled to do what they want with their lives. Zack, without being patronising, you are still young, and one day, you will look back at this situation and you may laugh, cry, find it amusing, horrible, even revolting, whatever. Or you may be with your cousin. But whatever happens, remember that what you do will ahve consequences.

I personally don't think its a good idea to ahev that kind of relationship with your first cousin, for reasons mentioned by others here, eg genetics etc, but I think your r/ship has not gone so far as kids so I won't go onto that.

Just think carefully before you do things, its very easy to get carried away and emotionally involved with someone, anyone, at the moment but later you may regret it. At the end of the day, whatever you do will be part of your experience growing up and it may teach you about yourself. I would advise, leave that kind of relationship to non-relations as opening up that can of worms can lead to a lot of heartache and family problems. Whatever you decide, good luck and try to be mature.

[tigwig]

for God's sake everyone, you are talking to this guy like he is really mature!! No offence Zack but you are only 16 live and let live if he wants to sh*g his cousin so be it as long as they use contraception. It is the only way teenagers learn in life, obviously no one is saying they are going o get married the poor lad has lustful feelings like any lad his age would get touching a girls panties!! Let them get on with it

[Pippa68]

Well it is all perfectly legal isn't it?

Personally I don't have an 'ewwww' factor when it comes to cousins dating or marrying. It woked out ok for the Royal family didn't it? ermmmm ok, not a good example there ;o)

I know of a couple who are cousins. They weren't brought up in a close family unit and didn't meet until they were in their early teens. They went on to marry and have 3 children who are all ok physically & mentally.

I was brought up with my cousins as if we were brother & sister so I never have, and never would, contemplate a relationship with mine ~ however in other cases the closeness of family isn't there.

[RepIreland]

I can understand how you feel as I am also involved with my first cousin. What started as a drunken fling turned into me falling completely and utterly in love - and I know he feels the same. We had to end our relationship due to his Sister finding out and being totally against us. His Mother (my Dad's Sister) also knows but does not see anything wrong with it. I think that depending on your closeness ie. I have first cousins who live in England who are like my Brothers and Sisters and I could never ever have any sexual feelings towards them however the cousin that I love I hardly knew before - I would maybe see him every 4-5 years when visiting Ireland so it didn't feel like we were related. So no, I don't think there is anything wrong in it as long as you both have the right intentions for each other. Zack you are very young and I agree with Shadow Man that you will have to see each other again and it could be painfully embarrassing however saying that you can not help who you fall for!! Good luck!!!

[sweetlover30]

well i dont think its wrong to be involved with a cousin, i personaly wouldnt but thats me :D

if you find love then keep it if you can.
but it doesnt sound like :D just young lust.

as for the asking if parents of unborn children are related i have 3 children and wasnt asked once.