Friends Dad wants compensation

[medsecslave]

I'm having a bad week! My daughter and two friends went on a Young and Lively holiday to Greece so my husband and I went to Spain. We thought all was ok until my Mum rang (she's been staying here looking after my son) to say the father of one of the girls had called round to say his daughter was having a tough time with the other two. It seems she didn't want to be out until all hours as she had a boyfriend back home and it all got nasty. He wasn't abusive but obviously upset so my Mum explained that we were away and gave our tel no as well as that of my daughter. He rang my daughter to say he'd be having words with her when she got home. The following day he left a message on our answerphone to say his daughter was coming home a week early and my daughter would need to compensate her or there would be repercussions. I've spoken to my daughter and it really is six of one and half a dozen of the other. They're all 19 yrs old. Meanwhile I'm sick with worry about the term repercussions. He's said he'll be round here when she gets back. I really don't know how to handle this or whether we should offer to pay a third of the flight back. Any suggestions?

[CheekyChops]

Don't pay anything!

If his daughter went on a young and lively holiday with 2 mates what else did she expect? Did she make it clear before going that she didn't want late nights? As long as your daughter and the other friend made sure she got back to the accomodation without a problem I can't see what he wants compensating for!

[CheekyChops]

Meant to say, it was her choice to come home early. Lots of people fall out with mates on holiday, you normally make up or put up with it. Not many fly home early to daddy.

[Ethel]

Nothing unusual here - people on holiday often fall out.

No doubt she could have gone to bed early if she wished. And it is absolutely nothing whatsoever to do wth her dad or you, for that matter.

They are all adults and should sort it out between themselves.

Take no notice. There is no action he can take.

[medsecslave]

From the message he left, it sounds like he wants the cost of the flight back, the cost of the holiday together with compensation for the fall out! .

[Ethel]

Tough - he is not going to get it. Tell him to take you to court.

[medsecslave]

That's how I feel Ethel - in fact I think it should be ME seeking compensation from the lot of them for ruining my holiday!! Also, I don't think he's too bright, what did he think he was doing leaving a message threatening repercussions if she doesn't pay up? I'll make sure that message doesn't get wiped but it doesn't stop me worrying because I've never met him and don't really know what he's got in mind.

[Ethel]

My guess is you will hear no more about it when he has calmed down and realised what a total ass he is being.

[NORMANTHEDOG]

if he carries on being threatening to you when you get home tell him you have kept the voice message and will report him to the police.

[pauln90]

Keep a diary of any contact by this man.Make a record of any calls,letters or phone messages - indeed keep the answerphone recordings if you can.
Then if the harrassment continues you have evidence to hand to give the police.

[bensmum]

I have to agree with everyone else on here - his daughter is an adult, she didn't have to do what everyone else was doing and it was her choice to come home early.
As everyone else says - keep the telephone message and a record of any other communication from him and if he does come round contact the police - it is harassment if he carries on.
If he threatens to sue for compensation then put in a counter claim for ruining your holiday!
Good luck

[Peter Pedant]

Yeah I agree - I think you keep Mum ! (er...hahaha)
Let them all return and sort it all out amongst themselves

blimey what a daddy's girl !

[Kleiber]

I agree, too. At 19, they're all adults (would he take the same view if she was 25?). We know what our kids are like - they fall out, next minute they're friends again. Best not to get involved, although I think the girl's being a bit silly (and as for her father, well.....'nuff said!)

[medsecslave]

Thanks for all your support. I do think the father is bonkers as he also states he's phoned the Rep at the hotel to find out what's happening!! More worryingly for me, the message is slightly muffled but I can catch the word drugs at the end of it. I take it he's referring to my daughter and this is very bad news IF its true. If it's not, then he's dropped himself right in it - as I said - not the brightest spark.

[thebigcheese]

sounds like a right nutter. sleep with the lights on.