Is it a problem?

[myselfness]

Ok, me and my bf have been going out for nearly a year now and we have a kind of understanding relationship.
eg i KNOW hes gonna check out other lasses, especially when theyre walking round town in "clothes" and it doesnt bother me much.
He recently started a new job in a bar he used to go into before we met and hes working with a lass he used to fancy (nicknamed "the fit one" by him!)
and he keeps talking about her and saying shes dead canny etc
She now keeps saying that he should of asked her out, and asking for his number, where he lives, telling him she has a "free pass" off her bf to sleep with anyone so we think she has a thing for him
but im starting to think maybe he still likes her, or likes her back...
it could just be hes chuffed someone actually likes him and hes flirting back (cos he flirts with everyone- not an issue cos i find it funny) ... am i just worrying over nothing?

[Silversky]

I kinda had a similar thing going on with me and my boyfriend a while ago.
He liked a girl that he worked with in a bar, and she liked him after a while.
Just ask him about it, if he starts and arguement or gets defensive then he's obviously go something to hide. But I wouldn't let it get to you, it's probably not worth it.

[Essentially]

I don't think anyone worries over nothing; you either have grounds to worry or you don't. Only you will ever know that so the first thing is ask yourself a couple of things to start off with.

Does his flirting bother you? You say you have 'an understanding relationship' and I wouldn't really know what that means. But if it means that you would both flirt and be content with each other, then fine. But if that's the case this is proving too much for you.

Do you consider flirting to be acceptable? Consider that 'things happen' when either party get into flirting. With all the best intent in the world ... sometimes, things happen.

Ask him about her, in a none-threatening way, and see what he comes up with. If neccessary look for confidence in him that nothing will lead from this. If you don't feel confident, then it's something you both should really sit down and discusee. Just my take.

~FrankiE~

[xhxmxsx]

it sounds like she only wants him because he has a g/f all part of the challenge, i think u need to be upfront and ask him what is going on tho

[lauren27]

Knock her block off!