I worry so much

[fizzyBee]

I'm very happy with my fiance but the problem is that when we aren't together, I worry all the time that something bad will happen to him to take him away from me. Just him going to work causes me to spend my day worrying. I don't know if it was maybe caused by the fact my younger brothers best friend died last year aged 14 but I'm very aware of how quickly life can be taken and what is here today maybe gone tomorrow. At the same time I should realise that this goes for everyone and there is as much chnce of something happening to me as there is to him. Does anyone els worry like this or am I just strange?

[pixie_103]

I used to worry a lot like this and get myself into such a tizz I would constantly feel sick. I was only 16 at the time and parents were divorcing so think that's what brought it on. I went to the doctor and he sent me to a youth councillor and after a couple of chat's I started to feel a lot better. I'm 22 now and fine, just worry when I know my fella is due home and he doesn't come back till later but it's easily controlled. Go and see your doctor, it might be something you're unaware of causing you to feel like this. Good luck :)

[lauren27]

Your not alone! I am always thinking of bad things that could happen to the people I love, and how easily they could be taken away also. If I am away for the night I worry constantly and wish I didn't worry so much, but I think thats just the way some people are. It helps me to tell them that I love them before they go out, so at least I know that if anything did happen, they would know I loved them.

[fizzyBee]

Thanks for your answers. It makes me feel better to know that at least I'm not the only one. I always wish I didn't worry so much but then I think if just this once I stop worrying, this could be the day something happens. I guess I just got to learn to live with it and it shows I care. xx

[earsugar]

I think that you would benefit from some councilling to help you reconcile these feelings, its surprising how much it can help, life is so precious that you must try to squeeze as much fun and love out of it as you can. x

[hedleyster]

When someone you know dies it makes you very aware of mortality. Or it did to me. I worried that I would die, my husband would, then my friends,neighbours, then my parents, grandparents etc and the person who died was not even a member of my family nor did I know him well. I thought about whether the death could have been avoided and what happens when someone dies. What happens here and what happens after to the people who are left and even ehat happens after death. I probably should have had councelling considering the circumstances but I didn't. I became to realise that worrying about life/death was stopping me from living and making the most of the life we are given. I decided to try to put my efforts into making life good for people around me and then gradually myself aiming to make the most of each minute. If I had died what would I want for the people I leave behind? I also decided that the person who died should not die without it impacting my life...I knew I needed to change. It takes time to heal and also love. Love is the most important thing we have it should be treasured.