Or using your life experience wisely? Sometimes there's only a hair's breadth between the two, as long as you give people a chance before you condemn them, that's OK, in my book.
i am with you there petal,you realy need to know someone, there are a lot of people i thought were nice on the serfice accepted them ,only to find out they were not as i had seen them,so i do tend to not trust people [which is sad] but that is society