What should I do?

[bobbikay]

I really love my boyfriend, but sometimes I don't think he treats me very well. Half the time I'm with him, he ignores me or ditches me for hours at a time. When we go somewhere, he usually tells me to have a shower or do my makeup or put something better on (which ticks me off cause I'm pregnant with his child and don't fit into anything nice. What does he expect me to wear? A tube top and a miniskirt?) I have broken up with him several times because of his pot-smoking habit. He doesn't do it in front of me anymore, but sometimes I find it hidden around the house and he lies to me about it. I know he would NEVER hit me, but he has said things to me that may as well have been a slap in the face. Sometimes when I'm with him, I'll start crying for no reason (could be mood swings lol). Sometimes he's REALLY sweet to me, and he makes me feel special. He talks a lot about the future and his plans for us and the baby, but every time he says he's going to do something, it doesn't happen. His story is always changing. I love him A LOT, I just don't know if I can completely trust him, or if our relationship will ever be what it should be. I don't think I can ever accept the fact that he smokes weed, even if it's not around me. And I don't want to be ignored. I really don't want it to come down to dumping him, but I don't know if I can live like this much longer. Is there any way he'll ever change? What should I do?

[jno]

it could be mood swings, but it doesn't sound as if your behaviour is really the problem. You seem to see what he's like clearly enough. Up to you what you do about it. You probably won't be able to change him, people can only change themselves. And the weed may be undermining his ability to do so, even if he has good intentions. It doesn't sound as though you trust him - with good reason, I expect - and that's a lousy basis for a relationship. People can change, but I wouldn't be too optimistic about this one, to be honest.

[liquidspace]

This sounds typical of many men I have known unfortunately. Do not hold out any hope here. He is at fault here not you. From my experience I would say he wont change. The one problem you have is carrying his child. Make it clear you wont stand for being mistreated. Good luck.

[caz247]

you knew what he was like before you got
pregnant, so he isn't going to change now.
plus you are only a teenager yourself, why don't
you talk to your friends about it preferably not the
ones you used to moan on here about

[country_boy]

The pot sounds like the root of the problem, if he's not willing to give it up for you and the baby then I can't see things improving. He needs a wake up call. Good luck

[Reverandfunk]

And your bringing a child into this?

Frightening.