One for the boys

[Sasha13]

If you've been seeing a girl for a while, do you make the assumption it's exclusive or (if the opportunity presented itself) would you see other people until it was understood that it was?

If it's the latter (i.e. you would 'play the field' until it was understood that it was exclusive) would you mention it to the lady concerned, or would you wait for her to do it?

[4getmenot]

personally if I'm seeing someone as in regularly sleeping with I wouldnt be seeing anyone else anyway. I think if its a good relattionship you never need to sit down and ask if you're an item

[4getmenot]

oh sorry for the boys. Dont get confused I am not male. :-)

[Sasha13]

No, I know! And it's kind of a hypothetical question rather than one for me as such - but always good to hear from you :o)

[4getmenot]

I think you'll find possibly men might think a bit differently

[legend758duo]

im confused by regularly sleeping with ??

is it possible just to be irregular sleeping partners , and play around ?

sorry but for me if youre with them then its a givben you dont fcuk about.

amazed at regular bit.


still its the 21st century i spose

[legend758duo]

raises a question
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new post lol

[Sasha13]

I meant seeing someone, as in haven't slept with them yet.

Would that seriously make a difference to guys anyway? As in, after you sleep with a guy for the first time they automatically assume it's a relationship?

I may be tarring everyone with the same brush, but in my experience it doesn't! Or maybe that changes as guys get older?

[legend758duo]

i dunno

some women .

so ive heard.
wouldnt sleep with you UNLESS they were going out wirth you.
theyd consider themselves cheap otherwise.
other women prefer casual sex to relationships.
i guess it takes all sorts ?

[4getmenot]

yes thats just it. If after a while you start sleeping with them you think you must be going out so its never an issue to ask someone

[4getmenot]

regularly sleeping with as aposed to people who have one night stands legend

[Sasha13]

Ah, 4get but in my experience it doesn't work like that - you can't just assume - just wondered if other peoples experience was that too or if it was ok to assume?

[4getmenot]

I think if you trust someone you can just assume. Me and my current bloke have never said it, but I know we are an item

[designerart]

Doh! Whatever happened to TALKING!? You are actually sleeping with this woman so is it too much to ask that you actually have a conversation about something as potentially serious as this. I cannot believe you would write to a forum like this for advice when the obvious answer is to speak to your girlfriend! Or are you just wanting permission from complete strangers to sleep around?

[Sasha13]

Firstly, I'm a girl.

Secondly, if you'd read the previous posts you'd see it is a hypothetical question

Thirdly, if you'd read the previous posts you'd see the question relates to before you've slept with the person in question

Fourthly, I don't need permission from this site or anywhere else to post qu's that I feel are relevant - whether they relate to sleeping with someone or not.

[Tara999]

In my personal opinion and IM a GIRL (lol!) if I slept with a guy - no matter the timescale involved - I would automatically assume it was the start of a beautiful relationship, I have always held that belief.

AND 'Designerart' its a free country and people on here can post whatever they like within reason, you have no right to comment on this person's thread in this manner.

[time2fly]

as a guy you need to sort it out, my current gf at the start said that we are both free, that meant that she could say to me we weren't together when she went and fcukd sumone else - nice em!!