*Baby number 2*

[andrea81]

Just thought I would share the fact that I am expecting my second baby. I found out yesterday. It's early days yet, but what the hell... Hoorey!!!!

Only advice i'm after is:
1) I had an emergancy C section last time due to pre-eclampsia, so petrified that I have to have another!
2) When should I tell my 3 year old boy, I was think when I have my first scan... what you think???

[B00]

Awww congrats xxxx

If it was me i' wait till I was at least showing to tell my own nearly 3 year old, but that's only because I'd be constantly 'grilled' by her about it till I was sick to death of repeating myself.

[confused79]

Congrates.

You wont necessilary have to have another c section, fingers crossed, my sister in law had 4 chilcren all c section then her fifth was natural.

I would also say i wouldn't tell my child until i was showing x

[Pippa68]

I agree with BOO.

Kids have absolutely no sense of time and if you tell them too soon you will have to suffer ''Is the baby coming out yet???'' every five minutes. I guess it helps to explain that the baby needs to grow for a very long time before it's ready to come out..lol. But yes, if you do want to tell your son earlier wait for the scan first :o)

As for your first concern, you can discuss this with your midwife, and later on with your consultant. There isn't usually any reason why you shouldn't be able to have a VBAC (vaginal birth after c section) however as you had pre-eclampsia that will be monitored for signs.

At least if you do have another c section you can prepare yourself for it..having been through it before. I know my sister in law who has had 3 c sections has said that they got easier with each one.

Good luck, and congratulations!!

[andrea81]

Thanks guys, I think it has helped a lot that my sister is pregnant at the moment and he has been watching her belly grow and so far isn't bothered about what it all means. I expect it will be different as it's happening to me who he's obviously closer to. But yes I agree, perhaps I should wait that little bit longer until i'm showing.

My only worry about a C section is that the last one was under general anathetic so I don't recall anything. If I have to have an elective one, it'll be new to me!

[angel75]

hi congrats on the news,i had c section with my first due to the baby being in distress but had normal birth with the second,i would not worry much, as for telling your son i would wait as ive told my 7&5 yr olds that im having a baby,and every day they ask me when the baby is coming(im only 8wks gone)

[Psychick]

Congratulations andrea (and angel!)

I cant really add to what has already been said other than when it was clear my six year old had caught on to what was happening (I guess she had overheard things etc) I have had her asking almost every day since how many weeks pregnant I am!!! Only another 24 weeks of her asking! lol

[annie0000]

Congratulations!

I have had an emergency section with epidural after 36 hour labour wuth my first and an elective with spinal (no idea what the difference is!) with my second (13 months later) Elective section is absolutely fine - very relaxed. I arrived at hospital at 7am - when down to theatre around 7.30 ish and was back on the ward by 9.30am Left hospital after 2 days. You may be able to have a normal birth anyway, i am sure that they will keep a close eye on you, but if it needs to be another section, I wouldn't worry too much.

As for when to tell the older one, i never realy had that issue with mine being so close in age. I agree though that time does pass very slowly. Bear in mind that it will be about a quarter of your sons life that he will have to wait, so probably better later than sooner. He will however probably hear you talking to other people about it pretty soon and is old enough to know that something is happening.

[andrea81]

Yes i'm sure that he'll have a lot of questions for me when I start showing, but I think it's one of those things that I'll have to judge at the time - I'm so excitable though, I was supposted to wait until my hubby came home from work, but couldn't told him as he was driving home!

It was only then that I realised that he could have swerved or something!

[daffy654]

Congratulations andrea 81. I don't think you are likely to get pre-eclampsia again. I had it in my first pregnancy (more than 20 years ago now) and it developed into full eclampsia during early labour,I had a "normal" birth (epidural,forceps,valium drip,no pushing). I was worried I would develop it again in subsequent pregnancies but went on to have 2 more kids with no problems at all.
I also know of women who have had emergency C sections who then had normal deliveries in other pregnancies.
I agree with the others about not telling your son about the baby yet.
Good luck with everything and I hope its all plain sailing for you.