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my b/f and I have lived together for 4 months now, he constantly is out at the pub and I am constantly sat at home looking at the 4 walls, he never bothers to ask me do I fancy going out anywhere or doing anything, I have spoken to him about this a few times and he has said he will try to make more of an effort with us and spend time with me - which he has not done at all!
He has had chance after chance - he keeps popping to the chippy or shop and ending up staying out till all hours in the pub leaving me sat waiting for whatever he went out for, he says he will be back at a certain time and then we can do things together, he does not come back and always lets me down and eolls in drunk whenever he feels like it, with no thought to me whatsoever or the fact that I have been sat at home on my own waiting for him.
I have had enough and told him that he has blown his last chance with us now. Any last resorts as to what we could try to stay together. things are usually great between us and it would be a shame to end it now.
He has had chance after chance - he keeps popping to the chippy or shop and ending up staying out till all hours in the pub leaving me sat waiting for whatever he went out for, he says he will be back at a certain time and then we can do things together, he does not come back and always lets me down and eolls in drunk whenever he feels like it, with no thought to me whatsoever or the fact that I have been sat at home on my own waiting for him.
I have had enough and told him that he has blown his last chance with us now. Any last resorts as to what we could try to stay together. things are usually great between us and it would be a shame to end it now.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.the short answer would be to do the same thing to him: go out with friends, enjoy yourself. You don't have to be hom alone. But it does kind of raise the question of why the two of you are together if he can't be bothered about being in your company. Do you do a lot of cooking and laundry that makes it convenient for him to stay with you? If so, try not doing it. And for that matter, try to draw up a list of reasons why you want to stay with him. Be as unemotional as possible about what exactly it is you expect in a relationship and ask yourself whether he's providing it.
I have tried and tried with this matter so much I don't know what else to do. I do actually try to spend time with my friends but a lot of the time they have things on etc.. so its not that easy. to be honest I don't care if he goes out - I just care that he says that he will be back at a certain time and we will do something together but he dosen't, he does not care about letting me down at all as long as he is OK and he just stays out instead. and also he is quick to jump and run the pub when his mates call but when it comes to me he makes no effort at all.
maybe try to enroll in some classes (that youlike).........to get a life for yourself is very important,so you wont have to rely on someone else to keep your mind occupied.
You obviously love him,but i think you have to weigh up the pro's and con's.Maybe he s feeling trapped,and if thats the case perhaps you should seperate for a little while if your financially able to do that, so you know for sure that he will put you first and not his friends.Has he got a drinking problem??
You obviously love him,but i think you have to weigh up the pro's and con's.Maybe he s feeling trapped,and if thats the case perhaps you should seperate for a little while if your financially able to do that, so you know for sure that he will put you first and not his friends.Has he got a drinking problem??
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