Should I be worried?

[tigwig]

I posted on here a few days ago about night time potty training my 3 year old daughter and it is not going very well! i have reduced her bed time milk and she actually has this now around 5pm. She wees before going to bed and on a morning she has learnt to get out of bed and use the potty which I have put at the side of her bed. The problem is she is weeing when she is asleep and I have no idea how to stop this. Shall I put her back in nappies and wait til she is older or keep on persisting? I am worried that this will turn into a long term enurisis problem for her as everyone I know had their kids dry at night when they were dry through the day but that never happened for me. Please does anyone have any suggestions

[B00]

Have you tried waking her up during the night to use her potty?

[andrea81]

To begin with, even though you may not be aware of it, but by being anxious, you are going to make her anxious. The last thing you want is for her to think that she is failing. I suggest for now that you use pullups but not as a nappie but as her nicks and to treat them the same i.e. encourage if she needs a wee she has to take them off. She may start to feel better about not having a wet bed and start to wake before weeing.

But on another suggestion, do you think she may have a water infection?

[tigwig]

Yes I have but she screams the place down and refuses to wee so I don't think it is going to work! She gets so upset about being dragged out of bed when she was fast asleep I don't think its very fair

[pingu97]

can i ask what u do when u have to get up in the night to change her bed? ive didnt have this problem with my girl, but my neice is 7yrs & still does it, her mums taking her to doctors but i personally think it's because as soon as she wets she's allowed in bed with her mum & dad.

[tigwig]

To Pingu, I am using Pampers bed mats and just lie her on them so she has only actually wet the sheets and quilt once and she is so tired when I put her to bed more often than not she stays in the same position! This is why I think it is impossible to teach her to wake up when she is in sucha deep sleep.
To Andrea I do not display my worries to her at all quite the opposite, I have made a star chart for her and she has 4 stickers on it already for getting out of bed for a wee when she has woken which really please her cos when she gets to 20 I said she can have a pressie. I don't know whether pull ups will work either cos they feel exactly the same as nappies but I might give it a go

[happyjo]

Hi

Try leaving her until after Christmas. My friends daughter was 5 when she finally came out of pull up's... nobody need know... when she starts school she may want to try herself..as she will feel 'grown up'....

Good luck

[andrea81]

Reason that I say that about being anxious is because I was worrying about my son not eating enough and not wanting to eat anything. I didn't hink I was being anxious, but now that I leave him to his food and not even coment on how he is eating, he eats more!

But also this site may be useful

http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/Mosby_facts heets/Nocturnal_Enuresis.html

Good luck

[TheWinner]

Hi tigwig, it can take a quite a while to get a toddler to be dry all night, and each child is different. Persevere, and don't go backwards to nappies. It is sending mixed messages to the child. One week in nappies, the next week no nappies, following week back to nappies. Lift her very gently before you go to bed youself, say about 11.30 pm (or whatever), sit her on the potty, hold to support her, and whisper quietly to do a wee wee for mummy , and you might find she does, without even waking up properly. Thats what I used to do. She might then go the rest of the night dry. Good luck.

[charlifarley]

all children are differant my son was 4 before he stopped use pull ups instead of nappies dont make a big issue if she does wet as this could add to the presure

[tigwig]

to Thewinner, I have tried to lift her out of bed but she has always been easily wakeable and horrendously grumpy with it!! It is impossible to do this without her screaming and then she is so defiant she refuses to wee but thanks for your advice anyway!

[station4]

Every child is different my son is now 7 he was dry at night by the time he was 3. My daughter was 3 in June been dry in the day since xmas but still has full nappy in the morning. I would leave it a couple of months and try again.

[Mazb92]

Hi
My daughter is 4 in october and we have only just managed to get her dry at night, i tried last year but like yourself found she was wet in the morning, i just left it until both myself and daughter was ready and its worked a treat!!!

[mifta]

i have 2 children. My daughter was 4 when I stopped her wearing nappies at night and she has had 2 wet beds in 4 years. My son who is 5 and 3 months has been out of nappies for a year, still has to be lifted to the toilet at 11pm and often wets the bed. I would advise you to stop trying so hard. Put the nappies back on for a few months and forget about it. She may not have reached the stage of development where her brain recognises the need to wee and also the need to rouse from sleep in order to do so.