Perhaps an impossible question to answer...

[Amber1571]

Just found out I am pregnant. Will be a single mum. I am late 30's. Now in the process of finding rented accommodation, from past experience will be in region of �450 + per month. I work full time earing in region of �1,300. I struggled then. Have no family, few friends. How can I cope finanically, if I keep baby I cannot give up work, how can I afford child care? Is it really possible?

[mrrobbo15]

you will get plenty of help....dont worry....get urself to the advice centre

and good luck

[saxy_jag]

If you can bear the thought of council accommodation (and it's really not that bad), then get yourself on the housing list, although you should be prepared for a long wait. You should also contact a few housing associations to see if they can help - the council will probably be able to supply you with details.

You will almost certainly be eligible for housing benefit and council tax benefit, and your local council will also be able to help you there.

The government are taking great pains at the moment to encourage single parents into work and to that end there will be funded childcare available as well. You should also be able to claim working tax credits.

I can't promise life will be easy. It's tough enough bringing kids up when there are two of you, but you still have a little time to get yourself sorted. Take a deep breath, stand back for a minute and then deal with things one at a time.

Here would be a good place to start:
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/life/benef its.htm

[delboy3]

Erm, what about the daddy? Get him to dig into his pockets.

[Amber1571]

My partner has grown up children, he is older than me. I went into the relationship knowing he wanted no more. Indeed, I was told it would be unlikely for me to conceive - tried for years throughout my previous marriage. I caught last year and had a termination, my partner then told me he wanted nothing to do with the child if I kept it. I made a choice, and we worked through it. Now it has happened again, I cannot say for sure one way or the other if I want it or not, I cannot imagine being without my partner, I love him. I am so scared,scared of not coping, no money, being alone, making the wrong choice.

[mrrobbo15]

without being harsh......its time to grow up and make a descision bout ur future

good luck whatever u decide amber

[lizzydrippin]

What do you mean "Now it has happened again"? You had an abortion just last year because you didn't want a baby (so you obviously know that you can conceive) and just a short time later you still don't want a baby and you're pregnant? it doesn't just happen on its own, you let it happen. Sorry to sound harsh but you are in your 30s and there's no excuse for you to be making babies when you don't even know whether you want one. The bloke you love sounds like a real gem!