she left....?

[natechusker]

at the start of the pregnancy we were very close and i thought happy, we told each other we would not divide while she was p.g. then at around 8-9 wks she got really sick and fatigued and shut herself off from the world around her. then when she started feeling better she left me, and come to find out started seeing another man i know the baby is mine no questions about it but why did this happen? she dont tell me anything no communication what so ever i go to appts. with her and her mom but she does not speak to me all my info comes from her sister or mother. is this normal with some p.g. women? please help need advice im going nutts im in love with this woman and want to be there for the baby and her

[Preggie_Sam]

I think it might be abit deeper hun then her being pregnant - dont get me wrong, its extremly hard at the start of the pregnancy, as you body has to get use to this "thing" thats taking EVERYTHING from you! And you wanna shut the world out - but at the same time, u still need hugs and kisses etc...i felt quite alone, so i needed extra company with my parents, boyfriend and friends!

From what you have said it does seem like its abit deeper - wont her sister tell you any more, as to do with what her problem is towards you?? did you live together?? You need to get this sorted before this baby arrives, otherwise its unfair to bring a baby into world war 3.
Just keep trying to talk to her - ask her mum, her sister. Do anything to get ur answers.

Good Luck x x x x x x

[sarnieken]

Natechusker.

It sounds like you are going through hell at the moment and I completely sympathize with you.

My own g/f is 11 weeks pregnant and the last months have been plagued with mood swings, complaints that I'm having an affair as how could I ever love someone so fat (she's only 11 weeks for crying out loud).

Anyway. I think there is something else here that goes a lot deeper than just hormones and the like.
It sucks but you may have to come to the conclusion that your gf doesn't want anything to do with you any more.
The first thing you have to admit to yourself is that this is NOT YOUR FAULT.
You are doing the right thing by trying to maintain contact and I see that her family at least sees this in that they are talking to you.
Keep that up with them as, at the moment, they are the only link to her.
Maybe she will see sense and everything will work itself out. Good luck and keep your chin up.
K