whats right

[applejac1]

if your father died and left all his assets to the eldest sibling leaving nothing for the rest would it be wrong to contest his last will i know he was not stable before he died.

[applejac1]

yes i was left out he was a cruel man when he was living to
thankyou that was helpfull

[annie0000]

I presume your relationship with the eldest sibling is not such that he or she would do the decent thing and share anyway?

[applejac1]

unfortunitly not my mother had 2 affairs resulting in iligitermate children only because he was cruel to her as well they have been divorced for 30 yearsn which made him bitter although his name is on our birth certificate we only found out in our mid twenties so for the past 15 years he hated us for it and wanted us to pay for my mothers acts

[annie0000]

That is so sad applejac, i am guessing then that you are not his natural child although he is on your birth certificate and I presume is legally your father. I don't know if this makes any difference. I don't know that much about the law and what I do know relates to Scots law.

There is also part of me that thinks that if it were me, I wouldn't want anything from him anyway. Whatever he had obviously didn't make him happy in life - maybe it is best to draw a line and move on.

[applejac1]

i cant believe myself how this all sounds but what made him happy was to see us arguing he got great pleasure i didnt like him but i loved him im so cross with him iv watched him tear everyone apart with his false accusations and his untrue stories and his false promises which caused so much conflict and divide i am i want to walk away but my sisters are so angry that i know they wont be able to

[annie0000]

He must be laughing his socks off now, he is still tearing everyone apart, even though he has died. I am so sorry for you applejac, to love someone even in those circumstances takes a lot. Maybe when the dust settles a bit, you can get to enjoy a good relationship with your sisters, money isn't everything.

It is very sad that your father could not see what he had in front of him when he was alive and appreciate the love he could have had. As he was like this even before he found out about your mother's "indiscretions", it makes me wonder how he got to be like that. It sounds like he has led a bitter, sad life and you don't want that legacy.

[applejac1]

thankyou for input your so right there was thing he did give us which was fore sight and that for sight was not to be like him so i guess i have one thing to be thankfull for

[Bohne]

I totally go with Annies advice.

Get on with your life and try and make it better than your dad did.

[applejac1]

thankyou money is not everything and i dont know if i can let it go just yet until i have sort legal advise but it certainly sounds like less hassel i may well have to live with it and be blessed in other ways