ever been unfaithful ?

[legend758duo]

reading through a lot of posts on here.
and there seems to be a highnumber of folk telling of their infidelities.
recently dopeybint talking about seeing a married guy.
add to that the countless other posts.
and tales.
true or not of assignations with the opposite sex.
so have you ever been unfaithful?
if so why did you do it ?
what was the result ?

did you regret it?

i expect very few answers to this .
but we will see : - )

[stewey]

I have never had an assignation; it was a tryst. I was not unfaithful because we did it again. I did it to see if the grass was greener. The result was ....................well.....memorable!

[legend758duo]

did you get caught stewey?


cos if you didnt then cant judge the effects.
well only on you if you felt at all guilty ?

[stewey]

Did I regret it? Yes, when the other bloke's wife saw the pictures!

[legend758duo]

now im lost???

[stewey]

Legend, how can you be lost? Just keep in mind that if, in the meandering circuitous path of of life, you arrive at a fork in the road..........go for it: take it!

[legend758duo]

if you mean a gay assignation then you should have said so stewey : - )

[webstar]

Why do you keep asking the same Q over and over Legend, you been hurt or something?. Yeah most of us have. We get on and get over. Sorry but thats how it is.

Yeah my missus run off with the best friend and what?
Yeah I wanted to get and gun and shoot them, but why?
I have my children. I can see them anytime I like.
Yeah I was hurt and wanted revenge, but I got over it.

Now i'm in a frukin good relationship, my children come to stay 4 times a week and get on so well with my partner.

Yeah she fruked me up at first, took a while, but everthing is good now.

Got my children 4 times a week. I'm happy and so is she.

[Ethel]

Dopeybint isn't being unfaithful - the married man she is seeing is.

Nope, I have never been unfaithful. :)

[Richie1976]

Yes.
I wanted sex.
A great BJ.
No.

[cazzz1975]

nope, never been and never gonna start...

[jackthehat]

1. Yes
2. In self-defence.
3. No

[jackthehat]

Sorry, that ought to have been;
1. Yes
2. In self-defence.
3. A retsoration of my self-confidence.
4. No.

[jackthehat]

I don't suppose I meant retsoration, either :o(

[cheries]

I have been unfaithful, and have also been the reason for someone else being unfaithful to their partner.
And I've also been cheated on.
I think it's very easy for people to say they'd never do it / villify anyone on this thread for doing the same unless they've actually been in that situation themselves.
It isn't always as easy and clear cut as you might think.

[legend758duo]

im not taking any stance on this thread.
im only asking the question.

webstar dont see what youre on about regards me??

if i ask about other posters eg, dopeybint i cant see hoiw that relates to me in any way.
as it obviously doesnt.


i dont think that revenge has anything to do with it either.
regrets and revenge are two totally different and unconnected things.

please dont compare your experiences in life to mine , as i dont know you and you dont know me.so not really sensible or even likely is it?


btw i dont think most folk have been unfaithful if thats what you meant by most have?
but i may be wrong.

[legend758duo]

oh btw ethel reread the post.
i never said dopeybint was being unfaithful.
she may or may not be.
but i never said shec was.

ok ?

[toby99]

I have never been and will never be!.

I have strong values and if I felt that I had to be with someone else then it is obviously time to end my relationship and move on.

Yes there must be certain circumstance that lead to infidelity, but what I do not understand is how and why you would want to hurt your partner (who you are with because you presumably love) in such a devistating way.

[legend758duo]

well thats what i thought toby .

but apparently self defence or sex seem to be good enough reasons??

[toby99]

Too many people, Legend, find excuse after excuse to justify their actions. Again, I am sure, like with everything, that there are exeptions and different scenarios, but I cannot find any justification to inflict that much pain and humilliation on another person; a pain that will have an effect on them for the rest of their lives in some way or another.

[legend758duo]

i thibnk you might have a point toby.

for some people its just an excuse .although i suppose there are other scenarios .
some folk blame things that happen etc.

but i cant really see how a trauma in your life would lead you to say , go sleep with a random stranger when you have someon who loves youu that can listen.
of course i guess yuo need to tell them.
men and women arent mindreaders so if they arent told then how can they be expected to know ?