Suicide

[snapdarlich]

Sorry to ask this here rather than body and soul. I thought I'd get a much more honest and open response in chatterbank. I've spoken a few times online about a family member who killed himself. If you've been close to someone who's done this...do you ever come to terms why? For me it was nine years ago. Granted, I don't think of that person every single day anymore...more the people they left in their wake. I have nothing to do with his direct family anymore. They barely talk to each other from what i understand...who to blame...so destructive...the emptiness and unlimited sense of loss. What's the difference between a cry for help and a successful bid to end your life? Does it ever leave you? The fact that in some way or other you might have been able to help? Or is hindsight...in it's own way...much harder to deal with? In addition to this (which may seem unsympathetic) I feel commiting this act is the most selfish thing you can do to your family. Imagine being a child in your teens and your father decides to remove himself from your life in the ultimate of ways. But it's such an emotive subject....is any opinion wrong? Seems to me you spend most of your time feeling anger or sadness. No answer resolves anything.

[babybow]

mrsbucket give me your life story then i may give you mine LOL

[mrs bucket]

the last Ed got the boot for abusing rules

[babybow]

LOL the last ed terminated chatterbank woooosh!!!!!!!!!!
been here for over 2 years do i look that old LOL

[babybow]

dont believe i have posted that dottie will be ever so confused rofl

[mrs bucket]

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[mrs bucket]

flickin 1 am ghost

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lol

[mrs bucket]

last chance, give me her number or i come round and nick all youre garden gnomes

[haysi06]

I read the question and first page.

Personally, I think that if someone really wants to kill themself then they will do it. I share your view that it is the most selfish thing that someone can do to the people that they leave behind. Its tragic and I cant imagine for one minute what someone must be thinking to carry out their own suicide.

I know that there is an anger there when someone close commits suicide but also think that the anger may mask deep routed grief. IMO.

Hxxx

[evedawn]

All I can think is that the strongest human instinct is the WILL TO SURVIVE and when that disappears (which is what happens in a suicide) then the person must be so, so ill. I

It may seem selfish to those left behind and to outsiders it is but like I said someone must be so ill to take their own life and i think they often think the loved ones are better without them.

Oh it's so heard to lose someone to suicide - I have lost 3 people to suicide over the years - None of these were family members, (one was a really, really good friend (I was 17 he was 19) the other a friend of my brothers, and the third a good aquaintance
It's sad, sad, sad :-( Suicide leaves a lasting legacy of "what if's"

[Stevie]

Hi

I know I'm coming in at the end of this post, however ....

I agree with you that it's the most incredibly selfish act that a person can perform .... to leave those who love you behind, wondering if, in some way, they are responsible or could have prevented your fate ....

I hear people frequently say 'it's a coward's way out' .... I cannot describe how strongly I disagree with that statement .... to know that in perhaps a short period of time you will no longer be walking the planet .... that, to me, is bravery .... but also the act of a tortured mind ....

Nobody who is 'thinking straight' would commit suicide if they knew the devastation they would leave in their wake .... nobody .... they couldn't possibly .... the last thing on their minds is to torture their loved ones for as long as they live after them ....

Given my occupation, I have attended to many suicide victims, both the dead and the living they leave behind .... I see people cope with it, and those who don't .... some who move on, some who don't ....

One common thread, however, which runs through my experiences is the cliche that 'time is a healer ' .... again, I disagree .... time doesn't heal, it just help you to cope ....

I also agree with others that perhaps professional help or counselling may get you through this ....

I wish you every blessing and I hope you can find some peace of mind .....

S

[Stevie]

Oh, and Legend ....

Grow the hell up !!!

S