Help Needed To Get Over This.

[mimi-moomoo]

theres a lad. of course i like him and have done for a long time. nothing has really happened apart from we've become really good friends. in may he started going out with a girl and i was completely crushed. his ex is my best friend and i remember all the time they went out, this girl was a jelous cow. unfortunately it appears this is just her personality. i know he can do better. not with me but just...better in general because he's not a bad looking guy. anyway, i'm making a few changes to my life like going on a diet, changing my hair colour etc. this is all for the better and i think i should i should add him to my list of changes. i've loved him for too long now and i just need some advice on how to go about this as i see him almost everyday (not by choice). i did once consider telling him how i feel about him and his girlfriend but i know him well enough not to. this, however, is the only way i can get it out. can anyone help with alternatives?

[chicklin]

If you love him - why did you two not become a couple? Does he not feel that way about you?
I think you should let him come to the realisation himself that he could do better than this girl - if indeed he could. If you interfere it might backfire on you.
Make all these changes if its for yourself, but don't do it thinking it'll change things between you, it may not.

[beso]

Mutual love is something that just happens. Those who experience it can see it in each other. I can see that you have been looking for it and I do think you would have picked up a hint if it was going to happen.

Sadly most of us go through life and experience attractions that are not reciprocated. But we learn so much about the nature of our own love through these experiences.

Don't waste your time hoping for something that isn't going to happen. While you do that you will be blind to other possibilities. There is someone right for you out there. Know what you want and want in a guy and get out there and find him.

Make those changes to be the person you want to be and open up youself to new possibilities.