2 Questions simplified

[chriscooper]

Q1: i have just come out of a relationship i hoped was going to last a long time. the girl was a really nice, confident and happy girl, the type of girl i like, i felt a connection but i was "too quiet for her" i know i need to build my confidence up, but its easier said than done any easier ideas?

Q2: before the girl mentioned above, i had been single for 1.5 years, i hate being single it makes me feel worthless, i like long relationships not an unmeaningful fling, when im not single, i feel like nothing can bring me down, i do my best to keep the relationship going, but it doesent work, can anyone give me some more ideas?

[Ice.Maiden]

You say your previous relationship lasted for one and a half years, so obviously things were going pretty OK to begin with. What caused you to split up the first time? Were you just "plodding along" together, giving the girl no indication of future plans? How long did your last relationship go on for? Partners are going to tire of seeing you after a long time, if you aren't showing more committment - i.e., thinking of getting engaged/settling down. Being quiet doesn't necessarily constitute being boring, but it's a good idea to show enthusiasm now & again, and to do things on the spur of the moment, such as booking a weekend away as a surprise, or going somewhere & doing something which's out of your every-day pattern. Good luck!

[tiggerblue10]

Chris,

I'm 36, female, have no children (yes I would like to have some but my body clock is getting on), and live on my own. I have been through some cr@p relationships and little flings here and there but I am still here and trying to get through life.

I hate being single but thats because I haven't met the right person. I am always hopeful. You sound like you are still quite young and I'm sure you will find the right person soon.

[chriscooper]

i was single for 1 and a half years, i know im only 16, but im not into little fings an all that

[aims1202]

16! You need to stop worrying about being with someone and go and have some fun, doing things you love and meeting lots of people, make new friends and boost your confidence. If you are confident and not bothered about being with someone you will become much more attractive to girls. If you do meet someone then treat her well but dont be too needy as it will put her off. Very few people meet long term partners when they are in their teens.

[Ice.Maiden]

Lol - sorry, Chris - I misread what you put. Thought you'd been with a girl previously for one and a half years - not single for that long. Aims is giving you some very good advice. At just 16, you've got years ahead of you yet. Make as many friends as you can, and don't tie yourself down too soon. Be kind and respectful to girls, and then one day, you'll meet "the" one, who'll be pleased to've met such a thoughtful guy. Remember though, being confident is one thing, arrogance is another. Just be yourself, and things'll work out OK!

[JK04]

Your still young and theres plenty of girls who dont mind shy fella's, so if i wer you i wouldnt try to do anything different.

[chriscooper]

Thanks a lot people that helps a lot, much appreciated :) x

[Reverandfunk]

16!!!!!

Get a grip for gods sake!

Go out and have fun

[chriscooper]

i dont understand the meaning of fun lol, i sit doing assignments, go to work, get up at 6am for college again... i cant have fun :(