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Spooky, answerbank just emailed me to say someone had replied but nobody has since 2005!!! I can't even remember posting this.
It's strange reading this now as we now have two daughters (eldest 2.5 yrs and youngest nearly 8 months) and we are DEFINITELY stopping at two! I got bad post natal depression after my first that has still not lifted and has wandered into agrophobia and all kinds of anxiety so I guess you could say motherhood doesn't suit me though I wanted my daughter to have a sibling so we had another. So I guess 'everyone' was right after all!