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My serious sex question!
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Please no stupid answers i am serious! been with my hubby for 7 yrs and have a good sex life, the problem is he loves recieving oral sex, ive never been a fan of doing it but since we had our daughter 4 yrs ago have only done it a couple of times, i used to do it loads! When i was preggy i did it & it made me physically sick (as just about everything did at that time!), he still asks me to do it now & i have a little go then stop as 1, i feel sick & 2, I dont really know what im doing, i know i shouldnt feel daft after this long but i do! He's understanding & never pushes it but i really want to do this for him & share in the enjoyment, anyone got any tips or advice which may help, thanks
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I agree with Redcrx, Pingu. You shouldn't have to feel obligated to do anything that you're uncomfortable with - whether it's just to please your husband or to prove that you CAN. I think the matter's more common than people like to let on, as the majority of my friends refuse to give oral sex, for a variety of reasons. If I know so many like this, then there must be plenty more, so you're not alone. However, if you genuinely want to give it another go, ask your husband to guide you and tell you what feels good, but stop when you're ready to.
Hmmm, i used to be seeing a woman who was like this. It was frustrating for me, but i put up with it for a while. What was more annoying was that she used to start, then stop after a few minutes.
What your best off doing is this. next time you get tipsy or drunk, try it out then. You will find it much more bearable and will get used to it.
To add though, if you dont try with him, he may go looking elsewhere for sexual fulfilment...
What your best off doing is this. next time you get tipsy or drunk, try it out then. You will find it much more bearable and will get used to it.
To add though, if you dont try with him, he may go looking elsewhere for sexual fulfilment...
Are you trying to deep throat it?! Cause trust me, those porn stars have a talent... As screeche says, get your hand involved! The tip tends to be the most sensitve so you really don't need to try and take the whole thing in one go... Not suprised you'd gag.
If it's the taste you're worried about, well some people swear by making their partner drink a shed load of pineapple juice, personally I don't like pineapple juice but if you've no mind about it then give it a go. Alternatively, do a little research and find something more plesant tasting down there. Also, you don't have to swallow either, there are variations and sometimes a bit of slight of hand doesn't hurt men either. They think you did, you know you didn't and everyone's a winner.
And finally if non of those tips work and you still hate doing it then it may just be something you don't like doing regardless in which case you should both concentrate on what you do like doing.
If it's the taste you're worried about, well some people swear by making their partner drink a shed load of pineapple juice, personally I don't like pineapple juice but if you've no mind about it then give it a go. Alternatively, do a little research and find something more plesant tasting down there. Also, you don't have to swallow either, there are variations and sometimes a bit of slight of hand doesn't hurt men either. They think you did, you know you didn't and everyone's a winner.
And finally if non of those tips work and you still hate doing it then it may just be something you don't like doing regardless in which case you should both concentrate on what you do like doing.
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There are many women who dont like giving oral, many of my friends say it isnt one of their fave things!! I am not saying men are dirty, but obviously it would help if he had just cleaned down there, or you could even do it in the shower, use your hand, alternate between hand and mouth so it makes it easier, they will still be getting enjoyment. Your husband sounds very understanding and I doubt very highly after 7 years of marriage he will be going anywhere else!!