Hi bigmamma! What a horrible thing to happen! No wonder you felt soo upset and threatened. I'm glad that the mother has been fully informed,and lets hope you get a proper apology from the son now.Whether or not it was him,he is responsible for the behaviour of his "guests". Years ago,after the building we were having a works party in,had to be evacuated quickly,my handbag got left behind in the rush.Someone I knew returned it to me,and i was really grateful. A few days later however,when I went to use an address book,that had been in the bag,I discovered that there was some really horrible pornographic stuff written inside it.It was an awful sickening shock,and I can only imagine how much worse you felt,cos,your experience is much much nastier.Anyway,hope you and your son have a great Christmas bigmamma x