Hi jeffju, I think I would leave things as they are at the moment, you enjoy each others company, and as we get older we do get a bit set in our ways, I know we shouldn't but we do, your son will probably soon be making his own way, so I don't see that as being a major problem, I hope he isn't just using your son as an excuse, but only you can decide that one. some people like the company but after previous bad things happening are a bit scared to jump in to deep to quickly because of the past hurt. why don't you just enjoy it for the moment and in a little while have a talk about what each other wants from the future, good luck to you hope all works out well for you, Take care, Ray