Son in Law

[bluedog]

My son in law has just walked out on my daughter and she is heartbroken, it is tearing me apart to see her so hurt. What is the best way I can help her and bring a smile to her face again.

[lilacben]

I am so sorry for you and your daughter.I know how it feels. The same thing happened to my eldest daughter and all you can do is be there for her.There is nothing else but time I am afraid . My son-in-law went back with her after a few weeks but then six months later left for good. It is so awful for us mums to see the pain they are going through.Thinking of you, both. love Brenda x

[bluedog]

lilacben
Thankyou for your kind words, I email her and phone her as often as possible, I just want to take the pain away.

[HJT40]

My mum helped me when my husband left just by being there, if I wanted to pop in, if I wanted to phone. I know it broke her heart to seeing me like it. Just be there, listen to her and love her. She will smile again, when she is ready, honest! The one thing that my mum did that I didn't like was make her feelings known about my now ex, which made it difficult when I still loved him. I know she was right now, but at the time just listening and hugs would have helped. You are a lovely mum for caring the way you do and between you she will come out the otherside with a smile.

[chadwin62]

shoot the son-in-law. xx

[makemesmile]

It's going to be a difficult Christmas, all you can do is be there for her. Best wishes xx

[lafrancaise]

At the moment she'll be feeling unattractive, sloppy and old-fashioned because her husband has left. Until she feels attractive, has regained self-esteem and loved again she'll be angry, mad, sad etc. As everyone's said your support in being there when needed is vital but don't get involved in case they do get back together. Once the shocks over, a shopping trip or a trip to the hairdressers can do wonders to feel more with it, also a way of catching his eye again if that's what she wants. Good luck to you all.

[lynbrown]

Dont call him all the names of the day - just in case they make up.

[bluedog]

Thankyou all for your advice. There are a lot of things I would like to say and do to him but I am keeping well away from that. Just taking care of her and trying to be as normal as possible. The sad thing is we have always got on so well and this came out of the blue. Luckily she has a very good Dad who will be there for her as well as me.
Thanks again.

[janetsflower]

There is nothing you can do except to be there for her, to listen and to comfort but try not to slag him off much as you might want to because she probably won't want to hear it from anyone else even if she says bad stuff about him herself. Time is a great healer

[magsta]

its sounds nasty but the only way is to let her greive through it is like someone dieing one day we have to move on hope she ok in the end