Stepdaughter

[theonlyone]

She hates me with a vengance , as I took her Dad (money tree ) away . When we got married things changed as we bought another home and money was tight . She used to stay over , then decided no more , so ok .... do your own thing . Her Dad was a deaths door a few months back , she sent a card , came to visit when he was at home , I told her I was to tired to cook a meal , she didn't like it and now doesn't ring her Dad , which is very upsetting for him .She is 33 this year , so what is the answer ?

[Postdog]

Up until the last sentence, I thought we were talking about a teenager, but 33.....!

I don't think there is an answer by this age.

[Pesk]

I was 24 when my dad got together with someone. They said they were married and were in all intents & purposes. She influenced him a great deal financially and caused quite a hassle between him, & me and my brother - when I got married she tried to stop him helping us out with money. Anyway, the point of this is for your husband's sake, try to build bridges as it will cause him distress not seeing eye to eye with his daughter even if he doesn't show it. Use your husband and her dad as common ground. She has known him longer and has a completely different relationship. If she's 33 she might be set in her ways. I managed to see through the upset and unfortunately my stepmother was the wicked sort and went off with his savings but that's another story! Try to build bridges no matter how small.