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age boundaries
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Ive recnetly met a really nice girl. We get on really REALLY well and are scarily similar to each other and i'm pretty sure we both like each other.
My only concern is that im turning 18 in march and im in upper sixth whilst shes 15 and in year 10. What are the acceptable age boundaries these days ive never had this problem before :-(
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Unfortunately at your age the 3 year difference seems more magnified. If you like each other there is nothing to stop you dating, just be aware her parents might not be too happy about it. When I was 15 ( a very mature 15, I had to grow up fast through no fault of my own) my first serious boyfriend was 21. We just took things slow and we lasted a year or two until he wanted more commitment than I did (probably the age difference) and I decided to leave home and move away.
Sex would obviously be an issue here, I dont know if she has done it before or not but obviously it would be looking a lot worse for an 18 year old to be sleeping with her than a boy her own age. My advice is to date and keep things cool for a while, just have fun together and see how it goes. Dont rush into anything physical even if she wants to as it could backfire on you.
Sex would obviously be an issue here, I dont know if she has done it before or not but obviously it would be looking a lot worse for an 18 year old to be sleeping with her than a boy her own age. My advice is to date and keep things cool for a while, just have fun together and see how it goes. Dont rush into anything physical even if she wants to as it could backfire on you.
I disagree with tattoomaster completely.
You've probably read my story somewhere else. But I was 16 when I met my partner, and he was 21. Too add to this story, and probably make it sound worse- I actually met him on the internet.
My parents weren't very happy about the idea, but they agreed for him to meet me, and we just fell in love there and then.
My best friend, was also in the same situation as me- 16, met a 22 year old guy on the internet. Her parents were completely against, didn't want her meeting him ever, or even talking to him.
So of course, guess who was the one sneaking around, meeting up in hotel rooms and all dangerous things like that- her, obviously.
Okay, the age gap sounds really bad now. But think about your parents, or family friends. I bet they have the same age gaps or more. That's the way I always looked at it.
And I was hugely mature, and my partner is quite young for his age. So we seem to meet perfectly.
Whatever you do, don't push parents or friends out of it, listen to their opinions, whether you believe them or not. Because it's much more likely to end in tears if you sneak around.
If you really like each other, and wait for any kind of sexual relationship until she's at least 16 and you're both ready, then I see no problem with it.
You've probably read my story somewhere else. But I was 16 when I met my partner, and he was 21. Too add to this story, and probably make it sound worse- I actually met him on the internet.
My parents weren't very happy about the idea, but they agreed for him to meet me, and we just fell in love there and then.
My best friend, was also in the same situation as me- 16, met a 22 year old guy on the internet. Her parents were completely against, didn't want her meeting him ever, or even talking to him.
So of course, guess who was the one sneaking around, meeting up in hotel rooms and all dangerous things like that- her, obviously.
Okay, the age gap sounds really bad now. But think about your parents, or family friends. I bet they have the same age gaps or more. That's the way I always looked at it.
And I was hugely mature, and my partner is quite young for his age. So we seem to meet perfectly.
Whatever you do, don't push parents or friends out of it, listen to their opinions, whether you believe them or not. Because it's much more likely to end in tears if you sneak around.
If you really like each other, and wait for any kind of sexual relationship until she's at least 16 and you're both ready, then I see no problem with it.
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age makes no difference, i was like you when i first started dating my girlfriend. im 22 and she is 16. we meet on the internet and couldnt believe how well we got on, it was 6 months before i meet her and we knew each other really well, i wasnt sure about the age gap but i knew that i love her so its didnt matter.
my parents wernt to sure about it but they are 9 years apart. the gap only looks so bad cos she is 15 and still not of legal age. dont worry about age and just have a good time together. i say go for it, but take things slow.
my parents wernt to sure about it but they are 9 years apart. the gap only looks so bad cos she is 15 and still not of legal age. dont worry about age and just have a good time together. i say go for it, but take things slow.
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