Gone from size 22...

[caveman69]

... to a size 8 in 5 months thru falling in love with a person who is spoken for. Not wanting sympathy, don't deserve it ,just advice. Is there a way to unfall in love with somebody,would do it gladly if I could. Am bordering on suicidal so please don't be jokey anybody xx

[cazzz1975]

Does the guy reciprocate or even know you feel this way?

[caveman69]

Yes to both Cazzz, but he has children, and you just don't do it in that case do you. No win situation for both, but it's hurting so much.Both of us.
Thankyou for reply x x x

[cazzz1975]

Then you have to move away because if you keep spending time with him you are only making it worse for both of you.

In all this time you are wasting pining for something that will never happen, you are missing an opportunity to meet your proper Mr Right who isnt already married.

If he is a decent guy then he will concentrate of relighting his passion with the mother of his children.

It takes time to get over someone you fall in love with but it does get easier eventually, you need to focus on other area's of your life and work on finding an unattached bloke

[caveman69]

Oh God Cazzz, everything u have just said makes sense, u r so right. Thankyou x x

[bigmamma]

22 - 8 !!!!!!!!

[caveman69]

Explain that one Bigmamma please x x

[~max~]

Blimey.......you must have lost around 8/9 stones!!!
I wish depression had that effect on me....

It depends what this person wants, really. It could be that he is staying with his partner for the sake of the children. You have obviously "acted" on your feelings. I don't think someone has to sacrifice everything for the sake of trying to rekindle a relationship with someone, simply because this person is the mother of their children. I think he has a lot of thinking to do, and shouldn't see you until he has reached a decision. Then you will know for definite whether this relationship is worth saving. Try to stay away from him, even go away for a while, see your friends, have fun. I wish you all the best, hun! xxx

[caveman69]

Max, how wise and touching. And meaningful. Thankyou x x