What does love feel like?

[CHOPS'R'US]

I went out with someone before for 3 and a half years and thought i loved him but now looking back i know i didn't. I have recently met a guy and we are together and have been for the last 2 weeks. I have never felt this strongly for someone ever! So i was just wondering if any of you guys could kind of explain it to me abit please....

[Casey]

I went through the same thing. I was with my ex for over 4 years and thought I loved him. But looking back I think I just completely got myself into a routine and it wasn't love at all. Of course I cared for him, but I am now older and wiser and understand how I feel about my current boyfriend. It is more than love. We are best friends and rarely argue, we appreciate and respect each other. A lot of my friends all feel the same about their past, where they thought they were in love but it was purely a routine and 'something to do' now they look back. I hope it works out with you and this guy, you will certainly know the feeling if it is true love. Good luck!

[smudge]

This question was asked a short while ago - so apart from any current answers you receive, if you type 'Love' in the category box, you should get lots of others too.

[Scarlett]

It's so hard when you think you loved someone and it turns out you didn't. Love is blind, and I think you don't realise how appallingly someone behaved until you are no longer with them. I guess that when you meet the "right" person, you no longer have to try so hard. It just clicks, and feels right. But bear in mind that everyone is on their best behaviour at least until year 2!! Then you know what you really have got. ALSO listen to your friends!! They always instinctively know if your other half deserves that title. It's hard to hear it, but friends (and Mothers) are usually right.

[OBonio]

Do you remember the first 2 weeks of the relationship with your ex?  I suspect, realistically, that they are very similar feelings.  Welcome to honeymoon period ;o)

[Morrisonker]

i hate to sound cynical, but if you think back to the first 2 weeks, or few months with your ex, i bet you felt the same.  You might not think so now, but you probably did.  3.5 years is a long time and by then you probably are in a routine, and the spark has gone, but don't judge your whole relationship just on the last year or so.  You wouldn't have spent so long with him if there wasn't any love between you.  the first couple of weeks or months are the honeyoon period, everything is all passionate and it eventually dies away.

[CHOPS'R'US]

Hmmm it's interesting you say about the honey moon period but i never really had one with my ex as i was getting to know him and more weary and stuff but everything just clicks so well between us but i thought it may just be like this for a couple of moths so i'm going to see how it goes but it would be lovely to feel like this all the time hey!

[SGKelloe32]

It is possible to love someone and not be in love with them as well!

[xxlizziexx]

no one can tell you what love is, you feel it for yourself, and when your in love you know your in love.

[Lamine]

Hi CHOPS'R'US , love is a friendship set on fire and a little haven of refuge to protect you from the world, what I know is you can not predict love because it come itself, somtimes it start just from the first sight, and you can not choose someone to love, but just your heart can do that. So do not worry, romove this question from your mind, and you will know the answer just when you are really in love, and then you do not need to ask about it.    

[slimfandango]

I finally worked it out! For me at least. And it made me think of all those people you would date to make normal life a bit better, which is fine, but SO MUCH BETTER TO HOLD OUT FOR LOVE!

And my answer is?

Watch 'Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind' If it's that type of relationship, it's love. It doesn't matter that there are neg parts to each person, hell, you just ridem out. My life will end if I ever marry a 'realist'...aaaaaaaaargh! the very thought!!!

[archbishop]

Very painful and the greatest feeling in the world.

[forever_true]

love! What is love? Do you know? Its all based on opinion, i dont know you or the things you do, but i know what i think about love. First off love is chemical, its an EMOTION that the human body recieves. Love towards a guy is attraction. which is also chemical, hormones, sexual, you could be in your 50th year of marriage and its still the same. its why we are drawn to our "mates" for a b/f or a husband. look at it right. i dont mean to be blunt about it but you're gona get hurt. 3 weeks, its attraction......LUST, which is not bad or anything its normall but dont read it the wrong way. look at it, i mean think about what you feel and what you felt last time. dont overlook something cuz you think it doesnt matter. iv been single for a year now. everyone knows me for being truthful about relationships. did you know that about 60% of marriages dont last anymore? Just think about what YOU feel.

[CHOPS'R'US]

Well thanks to all you guys that have put an answer up for me i just wanted to see what others thought to my opiion and each of you cover abit of what i feel. My mind is certainly on him 24/7 and he told me the same last night after a very special night, it feels all so different in such a short amount of time and i feel on top of the world. I can't get enough at the moment and i am finding it hard to put him off occasionally so i get to see my friends and him his mates. But i won't be dumpin them again i learnt that the last time, luckily he gets on well with my friends and family and they all like him so i guess i'm not onto a bad thing here........what am i talking about i guess i ruddy know i'm not and certainly won't be giving this one up anytime soon....Cheers guys!