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hi the children are 12 and 15. this is part of it because she refuses to tell him anything about the kids, parents evenings, doctors etc, and he only finds out cos they tell him. If she has something to do at the weekend she will arrange for someone else to look after them without telling him, despite him being home for them, then writes to the solicitor to say he wont do anything with them. Its this kind of thing he wants to record.He wants joint custody, believing that if they live close to each other then the boys come and go between both of them without disruption to school social life either. Its an awful mess. I have been through a divorce too, many years ago, but we were adult about it, especially witht he children.