Who'd have men?!

[Snappy]

Why cant men ever be happy with what they've got? I mean girlfriends? Why are they constantly eyeing up other women? Im so sick of this, i might turn to women! Seriously though, what is your problem men??!!!

[Ray the DJ]

It's not just men who admire the opposite sex, the women I work with (and all are married) are always commenting on guys who visit the office or their good looking neighbours.
We're all human and because we settle down with a partner does not and cannot turn off the natural attraction of the opposite sex.
We your chap starts sleeping with them is the time to get paranoid. 

[Octavius]

Chill out Snappy!  Paranoid Pete or what!

When you go into a restaurant its always best to look at the menu, even if you can't taste everything.  It's healthy.  I would be concerned if my gf didn't remind me that Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt are gorgeous.  It's normal.

It's only when you act on it as Ray says, that problems could arise

[keirah]

I AGREE WITH SNAPPY

[keirah]

MEN DONT THINK LIKE WOMEN DO IF WE STARED AT GOOD LOOKING MEN ON THE STREET  WHEN WE WENT OUT  WITH OUR PARTNERS THEYD GET THE HUMP BUT ALL THEY THINK WITH IS THE FUNSIZE THING IN THEIR TROUSERS.

 

KEIRAH

[andy hughes]

Men are far more visual in their sexual attraction, and looking at women is instinctive. That said, we should be civilised, and do it discreetly. Any man who is noticed by his partner has neither the sense or the courtesy to look in a way that is not noticed, or if he can't manage that, don't look when he is with her. Looking is just that, looking, it doesn't actually mean anything. i can see a pretty girl, and as she moves out of sight, I have instatnly forgotten her, and could not recgnise anything about her five minutes later. So you shouldn't panic Snappy - looking does not equate with disatisfaction.

[AllYourBase]

I only eye up other women so I can be verify that they are not as beautiful as my partner. It worked as an excuse for a while.....

[el duerino]

1 kettle

1 pot

1 tin black paint

1 little lesson

[Philtaz]

As Al Pacino said in Scent Of A Woman:

 

The day we stop looking is the day we die!

[FP]

I'm sure my husband must look at other women and to be honest I look at other men.  Neither of us draw attention to fact we are looking and that's how it should be.  He never comments on other women in front of me and I really respect him for that. 

[Frankie Babe]

Who are you trying to kid snappy?  We all look if we see a good looking bloke.  Only difference between us & men is we're usually more subtle about it.  Unless it's a fireman or motorcycle policeman of course in which case all bets are off!

So why should it be any different for my bloke? Just cos he looks at another girl doesn't mean he's not happy with what he's got.  Exactly the opposite in fact!  It's me he's snogging not her. He's not insecure either - my bf has said to me more than once that he's happy with them pumping the tyres up cos he's the one riding the bike home!

I take it when you're going out with someone you somehow magically stop noticing attractive men completely?  And you never, ever look?  Ever..?

 

[splodge24]

I've been with my guy a while now and it doesn't bother me in the slightest because he can check them out but it's me he is with! Also, women have such erotic bodies it's hard for a guy not to check them out, they are male and do think about sex constantly!! Like everyone else has been saying we don't exactly look away when a cute guy is in our eye line...true, there aren't that many so we have to look to make sure they are real!

[georgit79]

Umm, I think it works both ways. It's completely natural- we are not a monogamous species by law.

[MORELLO]

Because the grass always looks greener. But then when you stop and think, you realise that the gorgeous bit you're looking at is probably just as neurotic and unreasonable as the one at home.  

[ICEMANSAV]

Just a thought, would you have experienced a partner cheat on you and therefore become paranoid. You delude yourself that only men do this, my g/f does it her friends do! Maybe the question is not why do men do this, but more why I am so bothered by it?

[Hyphen]

You always want what you can't have!! I do it myself!!

[Bangkok]

I think the issue the degree to which the eyeing up is done and the impression it gives.  A brief look of appreciation is very different to a stare, and head turn and a sexist comment, whoever is looking at whoever.  As Fakeplastic says, it's about respect.

[Happy Sunday]

Cos most men have committment problems and think the grass is always greener the other side !!

[Snappy]

I can honestly say i dont look! After 3 years with my b/f to think of being with someone else makes me feel sick! He has never cheated on me but i find it so hard to trust him because he does this! I hate it!!

[Merlin]

He can't help looking and you can't help getting upset about it - it's basic human nature - I mean real basic animal instinct. There's not much either of you can do about it unless you've got the intelligence and consciousness to overcome your animal instincts and see it for what it is.

The male animal prowls looking for mates, the female animal needs security. Oooooh - that's sexist - no it's not, it's nature. You and your man are the prime examples. Now you can see what's going on, so now you can deal with it.

Anyway - what's the problem? He's only looking. He's been with you for three years and never, with all that looking seen anyone who led him away from you. How many women has he looked at in that time - and still preferred you? Shame on you for having a go at your man just for being a man!! :-).