**** pop quiz 222 ****

[leg_end758]

Have you suffered a bereavement of a close family member ?








How do you spend the anniversary of deceased loved ones?

[pastafreak]

Yes....my mother and my sister,both in the same year-1992..........I try to give some thought to remembering them-but part of the healing process is forgetting (for want of a better word).....when the day goes by,and I have 'forgotten' I feel guilty. Does that make sense?

[4getmenot]

Yes and I light a candle that I gave her for her birthday

[leg_end758]

Yeah pasta .


truly

[unrulyjulie]

hi legend,
yes, i lost my Dad when i was 17.Difficult time becasue i lived with him, not my Mum at that time. We had just moved into a new house, been there a month and he went to work one morning Friday 29th November 1985 and dropped dead on the forecourt from a massive heart attack.
He had kissed me as he dropped me off at work that morning, told me he'd see me later to pick me up and that was the last time i ever saw him. :-(

I sometimes go up to the crematorium where there is a book of rememberance with his name in but if i don't, i sit and have a drink for him and play some of his favourite songs, Glenn Miller and Shirley Bassey generally.

[raysparx1]

Right I was just going out the door, but wanted to just answer this,

I have lost both my parents and my father in law, only mum in law left now,, in law sounds wrong, should say only 1 mum left now, I go to a little church near where I live, get the keys from local shop and sit down and think, I light a candle, shed a tear and wish I could turn the clock back for just 1 minute to tell them all how much I loved them, but I can't, so I just think!

[bigmamma]

Yes Legend , over the last 4 years I have lost my sister , my mother , my brother , my aunt , my uncle , my cousin , and my baby neice , my father too years ago .
On the anniversaries I try to always get up to their graves with a posy or basket of flowers.

[pastafreak]

For me,my mother's death was particularly difficult. The last time I saw her was the day my sister died-(long story).....and I wasn't able to get back to the US in time to see her again...I was wracked with guilt for a long time afterwards.

[bigmamma]

Awww pasta honey , ((( hug )))

[jojojojoanne]

yes,
nothing in particular,

[4getmenot]

I;m sure everyone has had a family member die havent they, this post is quite depressing :-(

[leg_end758]

Life is depressing

[4getmenot]

Mine isnt

[4getmenot]

I�ve lost family members, fortunately who had lived long lives. But also lost young friends, Its what happens in life, lifes what you make it.

[jojojojoanne]

in a way life can be depressing :0)

[4getmenot]

If you let it

[unrulyjulie]

4get, although i see what you're saying, i do actually take comfort in remembering my Dad and telling people about him and what happened to me.,
Life is depressing but just cause we dont mention it, doesnt mean it isnt there.
I have given my Dad just a little " extra " thought this morning so thanks legend for that :-)

[leg_end758]

t y v m

[4getmenot]

Oh yer I know that unrulie, I remember all my friends but to say lifes depressing is a bit much, as surely life is what you make it. But at times it can be very upsetting. xx

[funnygirl]

My mum and it's coming up soon.

I put an remembrance announcement in the paper and the family makes a trip to the cemetery with candles and flowers.

A sad day.

[hau kola]

Im not doing this again after what happened before.