I need to meet people

[Thunderchild]

Hi all. I had the misfortune of living in Italy for 14 years and returned to England last August. So heres me 24 years old and I don't know a soul.

I need to make friends or rather meet people my own age to start with male and female. I tried and online dating site as for girls and well its useless (and it wasn't much of a dissapointment).

I joined a local photography club, well great people etc, but I'm 20 years younger than most of them.

I don't like nightclubs its just not my thing and not the place I would meet the kind of people I want to meet (decent lads and girls interested in more than a 1 night stand)

so what else can I do ? are there any other clubs associations or anything I havn't thought of ? it seems most clubs are all old fogies compared to me.

My dad used to belong to 18+ are they still going ? or has it become 60+ ?

I'm in northamptonshire if anybody knows of anything specific that is good to join I'm into anything realy just for the sake of socialising even if its planting trees in a country park or some charity thing

[angeldraws]

Hi - you dont say if you work - perhaps that could be a starting point - you could ask around at work wot people do or invite a group for a night out.....or if you dont work, try some voluntary work - choose something you'd enjoy doing - fundraising isnt everyones idea of fun but it gets you around people - they're not always full of old fogies!! Try a college course - get some advise on when courses are run for younger people..... why not try the citizens advice bureau - you can meet all sorts of people there.....
if nothing works maybe you are being too judgemental (just a thought) and could lower your expactations some.
hope this helps.

[Thunderchild]

No I'm not working and my only prospects look to be through agencies so its like a day or two here and there (if they ever give me a damn job)

citizens advice bearau ? for what exactly help in finding young clubs ?

I'm am helping a charity a "talking newspaper" (thought they'd be sweet voiced young ladies reading the articles)I am their budding sound engineer but I guess young people don't like that sort of charity work too much again infact worse the starting age seems to be 50+ so I guess I need to find somerthing else,

I'm not too judgemental just don't fancy hanging out with the local vandals (such as those damaging the cars at the photography club)

What exactly would you mean by college course ? I'd like to take a city and guilds in electronics (when I have the money when I have a job that gives me a whole free day a week) that would get me in touch with people with similar interests

[Ice.Maiden]

Hi Thunderchild. If you're unemployed at the moment, you can do OU courses off the internet for little or no cost.
Also, your Council and local conservation society should have various schemes you could join in with. The National Trust & Woodland Trust also ask for voluunteers.
If you have any spare cash, horse riding, shooting clubs.
You could join a gym, & various appreciation societies, or maybe help out at some youth organisation.
Best of luck - x.

[Thunderchild]

hm could ask the local country park I think years ago we did dosome voluntary work there helping in the woods.

I have no spare cash (the little I have ha gone in the photography club) so I can't do anything elaborate except travel a few miles to someplace if necesary

[Thunderchild]

hm I don't like foot ball or any sport really I don't mind lots of walking or cycling but not in a sports perspective. yes I could try a paper advert

[123everton]

You've got problems girl.
If you're single and don't drink in this country you basically don't go out
I would'nt bother with the ad unless you're looking to get laid, any friends you meet via such a thing I think would be a bit questionable.
Have a look in the local paper for the smaller Art Galleries (we have one called The View Two Gallery, not sure about the "the") they have viewing days with a complimentary drink every Saturday, there's bound to be something similar by you.
What was wrong with Italy? I love the way they socialise in Cafes and all that lovely food...

[Thunderchild]

everton number 1 I'm a boy (and a bit timid at that due to rejection by everyone in that so called wonderful italy)

number 2 italy is great for italians not for foreigners in italy as they are a "race apart" so unless you know a lot of other foreigners your lonely. All that Bullsh!t in their turism magazines about how hospitable they are is just bullsh!t they're liking of foreigners for as long as they are money paying out tourists. years ago attitudes were different I admit (my grandad got his car repaired in italy when it broke down and he was stranded the garage man helped him find accomodation whilst the 6 week repair was carried out and the garage man trusted him to send him the money when they got back to england)

The food in italy is great (the wine even better and 10s of times cheaper and 100s of times better) infact I eat very little true english food and quite a bit of adaoted italina dishes

I have no problem getting laid (if only sighs) I'm human to you know but there is more to life that just that I'm looking for "A" compagnion and some friends

so what exactly is the view two gallery ? I did take up singles adverts in the paper and register on the site but either people don't reply their profile was just removed or they are not a full member and can't reply but you don't know that until you get no reply.

18 plus would be a great option but there are no groups round here I think I landed myself in the region of clodoppers just nothing goes on here

[123everton]

I've never heard of 18 plus (I'm a bit older than you) the only thing I remember like that was Club 18 To 30.
You just need to look for a viewing at a local small art gallery the city council should be able to help, find one that has a bar and circulate.
Or you could try night school, cookery course(?), meet lots of people there.
Sorry did'nt notice you were a fella.

[Thunderchild]

thats ok everton I won't jump up and down and say you are insinuating anything lol...

18 plus (now called just plus) is/was for an 18-30 age group from what my dad told me they used to have fun and go places together

[123everton]

If it's Club 18 To 30 then it's all booze, boobs and syphilis.
Do the things you enjoy doing, then you'll at least meet people of a like mind.

[Thunderchild]

not necesarily (I hope) according to that logic I best stick to the 50+ charity hehe

[shoebydoeby]

hey
dont know if this will help but why not setup a profile on myspace or facebook.. its full of people of all ages from all areas and u can even join online groups
good luck!

[Thunderchild]

I have a myspace profile and think its the biggest load of crap I ever saw its good for random rubbish but not for meeting real people people don't put up real profiles just what they want people to think of them I want to meet people not profiles

[angeldraws]

Hi - sounds like you may be lacking in confidence and when you lack in confidence you're not as willing to try new things..... how about joining a amatuer theatre group - you could do background stuff like backstage or arty things etc... you dont have bto be up front and on stage to join in AND it will build up your confidence too. You can meet people of all ages there....
Also, if you're unemployed you should be able to get on courses free of charge.

[Thunderchild]

yes I do lack a bit of confidence but I'm sure going to throw myself at the first club i find that has the right age group. I can't get free courses as I'm almost 25 but if the tutor remembers to hes supposed to get back to me and help me asess my situation and tell me what i can do, of course to pay for the course i have to work and working means I will not have that whole free day to attend the course this is really a great country for getting bloody no where almost as bad as italy