Break up.. :(

[Mandamoo]

Hi everyone. I'm feeling awful. Today I ended my 3 and a half year relationship with my boyfriend because I feel like things have changed since we first got together, and he was getting more and more paranoid and I feel like I can't carry his problems anymore (he seems to have a lot). Now I feel awful, and I don't know if I've made the right decision. I'm not looking forward to going out tomorrow because barely an hour goes by when people don't mention him and ask me how he is. :( Any advice to share? xxx tia

[unrulyjulie]

mandamoo, its so easy to promise they will change. It rarely happens. Listen to your head on this one, not your heart.

[Mandamoo]

thank you unrulyjulie. It's surprisingly hard to listen to people say bad things about him, lol..

[Mandamoo]

I know he won't change, we've been through it before. It's difficult because we've sort of grown up together, he had to grow up especially fast because his mum left him. I feel awful because it's mother's day. I certainly pick my moments. Thank you everyone x

[raysparx1]

You must stay strong,be firm and tell him you both need this break to get your lives in perspective, don't let him make you feel guilty and drift back to just keep him happy, if you don't make the break now it will be harder later on, and remember what will be will be, who knows maybe one day you might get back together if that is what is meant to be, Ray xx

[unrulyjulie]

trust me mandamoo i know how you feel saying that. We dont know him and you do, all the god things about him as well as the bad youve mentioned on here to us, but we can see what you dont.

[Mandamoo]

Thanks Ray, I think it's for the best, we've got so much time to decide what we both want and need, noone's going anywhere fast. There's a whole queue of girls messaging him now so I guess he'll soon move on, and i'll move on to the next needy person.. !

[raysparx1]

Hi again, you are going to be alright, you have a very mature and sensible outlook, trust yourself on this one, and the next one will not be needy, he will be equal, enjoy your time at uni and work hard for the things you want to achieve, Ray xx

[raysparx1]

Clever ditch the wife and name the day, and wash your dirty mitts before we meet. xx

[Mandamoo]

thank you all. I hope no one asks me tomorrow!! I'll end up doing that horrible crying voice thing that sounds like a hiccup haha.. :(