When is my fiances' son allowed to live with his dad

[Carriemunky]

When is my fiances' son allowed to live with his dad? His mum is physically and mentally abusing him. His son is only 6.

[B00]

If his mum is abusing him- your partner needs to contact the relevant services immediately. Social Services???

Has he already done this? If not why not?

[natalie_1982]

I agree with B00, you should be reporting the abuse to social services, or at the very least ringing NSPCC for advice on what to do.

[pink-kittens]

Funny enough my sister is the same position and with her step son and fiancee

They say she doesn't feed him enough and he does, apparently lose weight. He also sleeps in the same room as the mum and step dad breathing in the fag smoke and doesn't sleep very well because of the TV noise and their chit chat. There is a lot more besides

When questioned about why he doesn't go for at the very least parental responsibility, they say it costs too much. This couple are having a conservatory built, she uses the light life diet at �45 per week plus false nails, fags, etc

I think they should diet properly and spend that cash on getting parental respons and therefore be allowed to take him to the GP which they both say the DAD can't do because he donsn't have PR. I say that's c*ap and I say they just cannot be boithered with the boy, but who am I??

Get yourself to social services - number in the book - I wonder why you haven't done this before

[banjosister]

Or is this just what your finance tells you?

Have you seen this for yourself and if so why have you not reported it.

I'm assuming you posted this as your concerned for the child?

[Velvetee]

How do you feel about your fiance's sone living with you Carrie?

[Carriemunky]

We have contacted the social services and there is a warrant out for the questioning of his ex wife. Every time the police go to her door she hides but they know she is in. I would love his son to come and live with us, I have a son of a similar age. Yes I have seen this first hand, I have seen the bruises and the rashes on the boy. I have seen the way he clings to his dad when he has to go home.

[andrea81]

Keep pestering the Social Services and keep a diary of everything that happens i.e. anything he says 'disclosures' and any new bruises! At the end of the day, the son is still in this bad situation and you have a duty of care to this child and his dad needs to insist on this asap!

[Carriemunky]

Oh and by the way, his mum is a childminder, what will social services do about that?

[Velvetee]

Don't get me started on childminders. When I was a child, I was cared for by a registered childminder and she beat me black and blue on a regular basis. It's amazing how these types of people slip through the net and are allowed to look after vulnerable children.

[sheila17456]

I just would not let him go back next time he visits you and hang the consequences

[Carriemunky]

Ok, so the police are going to try and get hold of her today to bring her in for questioning. She has told lies to her lawyer about my man verbally and physically abusing her; she hasn't actually gone to the police though. She has seriously lost the plot!