relationships

[tiggerbrown]

when i have sex with my boyfriend its good but he enjoys it more than me i do like it etc but i cant orgasm during it at all but i do orgasm when he uses foreplay like going down on me with his tongue, its amazing and *** or when he uses his hands much more than i do during sex and i enjoy the orgasms foreplay loads more than having sex! what can i do?

[China Doll]

Well stop worrying for one thing. Lots of women do not orgasm during sex, it's perfectly normal.

If you want you could experiment and try some postitions such as one called the CAT I think is rumoured to be very good. Or you could do things during sex like have your boyfriend or yourself use your hands simultaniously.

Ultimately though just don't worry, as long as you're enjoying the sex (it's not all about the orgasm) and are getting what you need from the foreplay then it sounds like your sex life is perfectly healthy. Have fun doing what youi're doing (and don't worry about the films you see on telly where all the guys gotta do is pump away for thirty seconds and the woman is rolling around in extasy, it doens't quite work that way in real life, promise!)

[andy-hughes]

Wise words from China - as usual I have to say - and she is perfectly right.

Women who orgasm from intercourse are actually in the minority - mainly because the clitoris is sadly not situatd on 'main street' in the genital geographics.

Have a talk to your boyfriend, and make sure you are both getting what you want out of your time together - although as Chinas says, it's not a contest with an orgasm as a prize, that's a myth put about by rumour, magazines, adult films, and imagination.

Just go with what you like, and don';t be afraid to guide him. men are not mind readers, and don;t always read non-verbal signals, so feel free to give him a little assistance now and again, with what ever you feel best with - words, movements, gestures etc.

Enjoy yourselves!

[zxcvasdfqwer]

especially do this......put him in your panties and bra and masturbate together and also (you) get a strap on and you put it too him.rub your clit as you pump him hard
talk nasty to him you know like say ....i want you to rub my pussie as i finger myself tell him to talk nasty to you.as he rubs your clit. Just do all the nasty ***** things you can thnk of together , if not do it with me i,ll show you how to c u m!