Getting married: advice please

[VorVZakone]

We've set a date but the problem is my other half wants to invite some relatives and friends just for the reception, not for the service. I don't like sending out messages to people that they are 'second class' friends or family, even though some of them are, lol, and some of them did this to me. Also, she wants to do this to some that come from abroad. I don't think it's on. Should it be on? She tells me, and her mum agrees, that it's very standard. :( :(

[whiffey]

You most certainly shouldn't have any foreigners there, very inconvenient. As to making people think they are but second-class friends - well they are, so sod them. Have a lovely day.

[andrea81]

Personally, I had a small wedding and had my immediate family there at the ceremony and all others in night! At the end of the day, you have to look at your budget and make it a day that YOU enjoy! You are the only important ones!

The family that come in the evening will probably understand as it is done in this way and would probably do the same!

Just to add, anyone from abroad, who make such an effort to come over (you might want to concider these for the day)

Good luck and congrats ;0)

[sandrajo]

lol@whiffey *waves* hi whiffey....you're alive then ; )

The whole idea is that during the day it's your immediate family and close friends who you kinda look on as family and then friends and work mates in the evening. The ones from abroad have to come a long way maybe she should consider inviting them to the whole do... either that or suggest a evening wedding then you can invite everyone and it saves a lot of money. It's between you and your fiance not her mum, unless of course her parents are footing the bill.

[sandrajo]

oh forgot;

Good Luck & Congrulations...have a wonderful day : )

[spaced]

Wedding invitation lists....the most stressfull thing EVER

[unrulyjulie]

no spaced, seating them at the reception is the worst bit! What a headache having to think who will get on with who!
One reason my second marriage took place at Gretna!

Good luck vorVZakone

[spaced]

I remember at my wedding some famil member leaning over to me saying, in a Yorshire accent, "Why aint there no garvy with this chicken then?"

I nearly ended his life!

[Jillius]

Crikey spaced, that could have been my dad lol

[whiffey]

spaced it is not considered good form to kill people at wedding receptions. By the way what is garvy lol ??

[VorVZakone]

lol thanks all. I wanna invite you all, esp. spaced with his gravy.
Funny, most of the weddings I've been at have at least one dreadful after dinner speaker, I find these really amusing, maybe I'm a sadist. Public speaking is expected to come naturally, in fact most people can't do it. FOR EXAMPLE (this is it almost as it happened recently at a wedding I attended) (Best man, portuguese origin):
Says how met groom
Praises groom a bit
Puts in one funny story about him and groom.
I like coming in country is happy time but when I way back belonging and the meeting fantastic times, so many many moments all special, one time in France was raining we ran so fast and best friend well it was back then. (He continued like this for 15 mins. Either drink or drugs. Bride nearly dying, I nearly wet myself trying not to laugh out loud).

[spaced]

lol Jillius if your dad's name is Kenneth, then yes.

Garvy = gravy...sorry

[Jillius]

No spaced, his name is Ted but that's just the sort of thing he would say lol !!