advice/ words of wisdom

[AutomaticGal]

that there is something that i want to confront my mother about but i cant find the guts to do so. im scared i will make things worse. but if i dont the consequesnes are fatal but if i do make things worse the consequences are again fatel...

what should do?? any words of wisdom

[bobtheturkey]

speaking words of wisdom let it be

[cazzz1975]

maybe you could enlist help of family and do it as a group?

[China Doll]

If it's fatal either way then you don't have a lot to lose.

[AutomaticGal]

except my life... my whole future....

[China Doll]

Which accoring to your post will be lost if you don't confront mother. It's my belief that you can't lose a future since you don't yet possess it.

[cazzz1975]

well without knowing what it is about, you have to envisage the result of your two scenarios (you confront/ you dont confront) and work out which would be the best for everyone in the long run

[AutomaticGal]

its kinda complicated. :-s

[dot.hawkes]

I think by using the word 'confront' you are seemingly taking the moral high ground, which is only going to bode ill for this ;'confrontation' , try to think impartially, suspend your emotions and listen to her point of view

[raysparx1]

If you need to talk to your mum, then just tell her you need to talk to her, never talk to anybody if you are annoyed because all you say will be angry words and not make sense, write down what you want to say, or at least make notes, but to me, if ever i needed to talk to my mum or dad, I spoke from the heart, say what you feel and how you feel, no good bottling things up, and as dot says "confront" is rather aggresive, just speak in a gentle voice, never get annoyed and the words will flow. Ray