Marriage

[FEELINLOST]

By being with your partner for 10 years plus can you know by then what type of relationship you have and if it will last if you get married? Or do take the risk to get married even though you know deep down you both still have issues from a rocky relationship?

[oldgrape]

if u feel ur relationship is rocky why get married it's like having a baby to make things work. only u know if it's right

[banjosister]

Hey feelinlost,

I would suggest not to get married.

If you know that you both still have unresolved issues I would suggest counselling either together or on your own. Your relationship probably won't change much if you get married - is that what you are expecting?

The only person you can ever change is yourself.

That way you can look forward to a better relationship.

Bb xx

[weeal]

the fact that youve just said 'take the risk' means its not right I would say, marriage isnt supposed to be seen as a risk from the outset

[angel-cake]

Don't do it.

You should get married because you are so happy that marriage is the obvious next step.

You sound like you are doing it to replace something that is missing in your relationship. Marriage is not a piece in the puzzle.

I think if you have been with someone long term (3-4+ years) and have not got married in that time, then it is because it is not right for that relationship.

A very hard move to make, but sounds like your relationship has had its day.

[FEELINLOST]

I just feel that if I get married its only going to be once and I have told this to my partner before but his theory is to get married and have a child or vice versa and if things go wrong when married then we have to deal with it etc

[Le Chat]

Hi Feelinlost. Things can go wrong with any marriage, that is very true but people don't go into marriage as a rule with such a terrible pessimistic attitude!
10 Yrs is a long time to have to be together and still not know, although I think you do, or you wouldn't be asking on here!