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He's had various jobs over the years, even if the salary offered is more our take home is always around the same. It's like when we earn a tiny bit more, they take away more!
He earns slightly too much for wftc (sadly they don't take into account the huge costs of getting to work), CTC is how we manage to eat!
Technically our quality of life was better when he earned less as we had more help iykwim. We can't even afford a car anymore.
We are kind of stuck in that middle bit. Not poor enough for help, but not rich enough to afford to pay all our bills!