question for the Ladies.

[Abdulmajid]

I hold strong to tradition and am aware that an engagement ring should cost the equivalent of a months' wages.

Can anybody tell me if this net or gross and does one include un-earned income in this figure?

Is being tight an unattractive attribute?

[weeal]

When my (ex) husband proposed to me he had both the engagement ring and wedding ring together in a box - it was so romantic - I couldnt give a jot about the value of a ring which meant so much. A can-pull wouldve meant as much.

[Goodsoulette]

I was always lead to believe it was three months wages and have never had one bought for me that cost any different to that lol

[Abdulmajid]

Can pulls???

I think the kids of today can not recall such an item.

Elizabeth Duke here we come then!!!!

[naky-nag-nat]

' Is being tight an unattractive attribute?'

Money-wise - yes, but there are other areas where 'tightness' is a distinct advantage.

[theonlyone]

Get her ring size and buy what you
can afford ...a single stone.. a romantic
meal ..go for it ..

[Abdulmajid]

3 months???????

Good Lord. I may not worry too much about where my next Lidls shopping bill is coming from but I'll be bu66ered if I am spending that much!!!

Three months, I ask you.

[skyep]

Is this what love is?

[Abdulmajid]

Love is everything my dear.

[hippyhoppy]

Well lucky thing to be getting a ring. I wasn't even asked! He told his mum we were getting married then told me to organise it. I even had to buy the wedding rings... I think the word b a s t a r d springs to mind! I wouldn't have done it but I was 6 months pregnant at the time!

[skyep]

Love is priceless! Jewellery is a token decoration.

[SRH]

I'm a firm believer that it's the sentiment that counts... but (and there's always a but when it comes to us lasses!)... my friend's first husband bought her a �30 cubic zirconium ring from Argos - even though he was a �100k-a-year scientist. What a *******! He ran off with his secretary and my friend went on to marry a fella who was as poor as a church mouse - he got her a ring with a massive setting and an insy winsy chip of a diamond in the middle. I'm sure it didn't cost more than �100 but it meant the world to her.

I'd love a massive rock if it every happens to me - but another friend of mine has a ring that cost �4,000 and it sits in a box in her bedroom for 'special occasions'. The rest of the time she wears a fake one that cost �5 from Oasis in case she damages the real one. What a waste!

So, while I want the rock - summat a bit cheaper is probably more practical.

[SRH]

Oh, how freaky, just typed in ******* on my last post and it got asterixed out! ******* ******* *******!

[Drisgirl]

Aw im not big on jewellery full stop -I didnt have an engagement ring and when I decided on an wedding ring I went for a bespoke chunky silver one with gold writing delicatey enscribing in gold ' around and round'.Its neat and he bought me the cheapest eternity ring on our first Christnas together -nipped out the pub between matches -must have spent more in the pub than on eternity ring.
Thought that counts -yeah lol !!!!
Bitter no -just wiser !!!

Wardy -buy your fiancee a beautiful ring chosen by the pair of you -so it has meaning !!

[B00]

Well if she can still lift her hand when wearing you should be ashamed of yourself as you obviously haven't got one large and heavy enough (said the actress to the bishop!).

So in order to save yourself any future embarressment, may I suggest you peruse the Argos catalogue for longer than what you intended to?

[meanie]

buy what is affordable to you, seriously, you obviously love eachother enough to get in engaged and want to marry. she probably would appreciate anything from you. good luck
p.s dont spend all you have, she'll probably be more upset with you, than you getting her a standard ring.

[wiggal]

My fella goes by that rule aswell!
In one way I wouldnt mind, as I'd have a �5k ring on my finger! But I also would be too scared to wear it out, and scared I'd damage it!
I'd be happy with a �45 ring from Hot Diamonds!

But I guess I'll just have to wait and see :)

[puss_boots]

When I got engaged to my first husband I was led to believe that he had �75 to spend. I was so excited and waited outside said ring shop, but on the way to meet me he had to pass numerous bookies and by the time he arrived to buy my ring he only had �21 left, we lasted 15 years and I never forgot my cheap engagement ring.

[paulsmummy]

why should it cost all that? surely its the thought that counts, what does killing yourself financially prove?? to me it prove frivolity, id worry about that...lol
but then im a simple gal, simple life, but extremely happy...