Am I better off without my best friend?

[ishy123]

My best friend has blocked me from her email and won't return my calls. She says I'm never there for her. Perhaps I haven't been there for her as I used to, but I don't think I deserve this kind of treatment. I got married six months ago and have a young child. When I'm not working, I'm going to my child's endless activities and my new husband and I are trying to adjust to the changing tides of marriage. I feel like I never have time for myself, and feel stressed that she would make me feel guilty for not 'giving enough'. I thought a friendship was supposed to be unconditional, not another marriage or obligation.

[Lakitu]

You're right, a friendship is unconditional, but that's not helping you at the moment.

Did she talk to you about how she was feeling before blocking you?

If you really want to save this friendship, then go round and see her, tell hr exactl what you've just told us and come to a compromise? Maybe you can agree to making a point of calling one another on evening every week for a catch up and then spend an evening with one another every other week?

Not only would this help her adjust to your new routine, but it would help you give you some breathing space and feel less stressed too.

[unhappychick]

I think you should write her a letter explaining everything, she still may not understand if she is not in this situation herself, but at least you would have tried...you never know she may even offer a helping hand! good luck -x-

[andrea81]

I've had my share of my life taking over and friends feeling they have been left behind. But it's usually because they don't understand how you feel. I agree with above, write a little letter to explain, chances are that she feels just as bad and will appreciate you making the move!

My best friend moved back to Ireland and I would say that distance hasn't hindered our friendship either, we are always there for one another, but we don't live in each others pockets!

Life does have a habit of getting in the way, but that�s life! If you explain your difficulties and she still ignored you, then leave it go!

[McNoodle]

...or from a male point of view, sod her! Concentrate on your family. I know from experience having a 'new' family uses so much of your time and it seems almost impossible to keep up with all you used to do. If she's going to block e.mails and not return calls then that's her loss in the long run.

[SKA]

well she cant be your best friend if she's blocked you, thats just shallow of her!! She's just being an attention seeker!! she cant expect you to be there 24/7 if you have a family to look after!
As McNoodle said sod her!!

[lubecki161]

Forget about her! If shes not a good enough friend to realize that your a newbie mummy and Wife then shes no friend! She should understand and give you space. shes prob just jealous and attention seeking i recon!!