Match.com..I need answers asap please!

[unhappychick]

I knew my boyfriend met his old girlfriend a couple of years ago through match.com, however out of curiosity I wanted to see if he was still registered on there, he is, and I feel sick to the stomach, it says his account was active over 3 weeks ago, what does this mean? and what is the longest you can subscribe to them for? I feel like taking a fake pic, registering and sending him an email to see what he does....

[unhappychick]

Ok, as per my answer yesterday, he came round and we spoke about it, I ended up losing the plot and in no uncertain terms told him to get out and told him I didnt feel the same way about him as I did, he asked me if I meant it and I said yes, he said right ill give you 5 mins and if you still want me to go I will, he didnt go and talked about it instead, he then went straight online and deleted himself off of it and he definately did as I watched him, he did tell me that he was on a couple more and would have to delete them as well, which he said he is gonna do 2nite......I was ok about it after this, until I read the post above this one, now Im just feeling insecure again, despite the fact that in all his spare time he is with me and when not with me studying, I know my insecurities are spiralling out of control now, and I need to get a grip on it, but finding it difficult

[Lakitu]

Unhappychick,

If it helps you, I know for afact that if it say's 'over 3 weeks' on the last active, then it doesn't mean that he's been on recently. That status could mean that he hasn't been on for 52 weeks, but it will still say 'over 3 weeks'.

I hope that makes you feel a little better, coupled with the fact he deleted his account straight away, he obviously isn't wanting, or intended, to hide anything from you x

[unhappychick]

Lakitu, thanks for that, has made me feel a bit better knowing that he hasnt been on there recently, and like you say the fact that he has deleted the account says he has no interest in it anymore, I know this deep down, but that little devil keeps creeping in my mind every so often....I will forget about it, in time -x-

[richee]

hi unhappychick, i dont have any better suggestion for you, as i got same situation. i met my bf on a dating site, even when we in relationship, he is still going on there regularly.he said just to kill some boring time at work and he is browsing with his work mates. we are living together now, each time when i saw that webpage he visited all makes me feel sick. we had many talks about it , but nothing changed.

i do feel your bf could delete it in front of you does show he care about you. the dating site i was on, i logged back on couple times as well, but just either got emails to say someone sent me messege, or just too bored and have a quick peek, i never really interested in it since im in relationship. he may log on just for similar reason. hope you can feel a bit better now.

[Sasha13]

Jesus unhappychick - what more do you want from him? He's on an online dating site but hasn't logged on for more than 3 weeks, so he's not exactly actively looking to meet people on it. You start to have a conversation about it and loose your rag with him then tell him basically you don't give a s**t about him - (probably for no other reason than you think he's going to say it to you so you might as well say it first). After you saying all that he STILL deleted his account in front of you, rather than saying screw this and leaving (and logging on a lot more to find someone else).

If you don't trust this guy, why on earth are you with him?? And let's be honest - innocent until proven guilty in my opinion - this is YOUR problem, not his.

And I am someone who has been stung by this in the past - met a guy through on-line dating, 3 months later I discovered he was logging on every day. That soon finished that relationship. But come on - I log onto my online banking more often than your guy was logging onto these sites - and that's saying something!!!

[teag1rl]

I would just like to add that I'm in a fantastic relationship but still show up as 'on' an dating site because I don't my password to get in and delete myself!

[Dr-Legend]

cant you just clcick on the forgot password bit?
sounds fishy to me .
as for the guy hes obviously still looking to see if he can get better offfer or perhaps a bit on the side .

[sssg4]

Hi lady,

I came across your ad as I have just posted one in this section.

I have used a number of dating sites and know that it is somehwta of a mission to get your details off. I have been on match, off of match and it really is a mission...something I wouldn't have thought men could be bothered to do.

I don't think you have anything to worry about. You'd need to pay to mail your bf, which is a waste. If you really are that curious, I'll drop him a mail if you like though I don't think he'd reply or else why would be bother being with you?