boyfriend having any trouble?

[soooomebodyy]

Me and my boufriend have been together for over three years. We started dating when I was in gr 11 and i am now currently working for a great salary and him as well.

We are both still living with our parents, he is 23 at the moment.

No matter what i do i just can not get him to move in woth me. I do not know what is the mateer with him and why he does not want to do it, recently he told me that we can start of by building our own flat at his parents, but up untill now nothing.

I really want to start my life with him alone, but how can i do that if there is always parents meddlling in our relationship.

I am really desperate because everytime we talk about it it ends with a fight.

[Eve]

Whoy not move out yourself and get a really nice place.

You will naturally start spending more along time together there and see how it goes. See it as a trial to see how it goes spending more alone time together.

Whatever happens you have a lovely place of your own :)

[LoftyLottie]

Most young people are quite eager to start a life away from their parents but money often holds them back. Your boyfriend doesn't have this excuse. I would think very hard about whether your relationship is really as solid as you think. He is still very young and may well be having doubts. He has been with you since he was 20. Has the relationship perhaps become a habit?

I would stop talking about moving in together and start talking seriously about what you both feel for each other and if you are right for each other. Perhaps a break might do you both good.

[LoftyLottie]

Good idea from Jenna! You need to have some independence of your own (with or without him) before committing yourself to living with him.

[Poison-Ivy]

Perhaps he is just not ready for that sort of commitment yet. Doesn't mean he loves you any less or doesn't want to be with you anymore.

Girls are usually ready for this sort of thing much sooner than boys.

Be careful you don't push him too much, you may push him in the wrong direction! if he's not ready youv'e either got to accept it and wait a wee longer or move on....

[LoftyLottie]

'Tis very true, young men are not very keen on commitment. Whatever you do drop the subject of moving in together completely for the foreseeable future and just see what happens.

[andrea81]

Again referring to you other post, maybe you should figure out whats up with the crush you have on you college before you move in with your bf?

Sorry, not trying to be harsh, but the two posts conflict with how we are meant to know how you feel!

[LoftyLottie]

I would add that I am a mother of a son in the same agegroup as your boyfriend. He lives independently in his own house, has a long term girlfriend and they don't live together. There is no rush!