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we to put it bluntly i a two yr old cud walk over me !
i feel guilty at the slightlest thing and i cnt say no to anyone! its fine with some things but then my frends jst depend on me saying yes and wen i finaly say no they like yell at me nd turn my other frends on me ?? i dunno how to get out of the habit of sayin yes to everyhing cuz its making me reli un noticable ... which kinda sucks as i reli like this guy in my year but he jst well... no me from the nxt girl :(
plz help ne ansers plz
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i feel guilty at the slightlest thing and i cnt say no to anyone! its fine with some things but then my frends jst depend on me saying yes and wen i finaly say no they like yell at me nd turn my other frends on me ?? i dunno how to get out of the habit of sayin yes to everyhing cuz its making me reli un noticable ... which kinda sucks as i reli like this guy in my year but he jst well... no me from the nxt girl :(
plz help ne ansers plz
xxx
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lol sorry
we to put it bluntly i a two year old could walk over me !
i feel guilty at the slightlest thing and i cant say no to anyone! its fine with some things but then when my freinds just depend on me saying yes and when i finaly say no they yell at me nd turn my other freinds on me ??
i dunno how to get out of the habit of sayin yes to everything without feeling so guilty beacuse its making me realy unnoticable ... which is kind of annoying beacuse i realy like this guy in my year but he dosent realy notice me beacause i have no self confidence and im reli quiet
sorry about my rubbish english
xxxx
we to put it bluntly i a two year old could walk over me !
i feel guilty at the slightlest thing and i cant say no to anyone! its fine with some things but then when my freinds just depend on me saying yes and when i finaly say no they yell at me nd turn my other freinds on me ??
i dunno how to get out of the habit of sayin yes to everything without feeling so guilty beacuse its making me realy unnoticable ... which is kind of annoying beacuse i realy like this guy in my year but he dosent realy notice me beacause i have no self confidence and im reli quiet
sorry about my rubbish english
xxxx
You poor thing - not only having a hard time in your life but off fellow ABers! It's all down to confidence honey! You gotta start believing in yourself a bit more - your opinion DOES count and by sharing your feelings on AB you've taken the first step to standing up and letting everyone know!
From what you've said, you're at school, which can be a horrible time, especially when so-called 'friends' can let you down and be mean. You've just got to remember that you're not the only one feeling this - the most confident bitchy girls at your school are probably only like that because they aren't totally self-confident. They've got to put other people down to try to make out they're more confident than they are, when really they're just following the crowd like sad little sheep - not exactly confident to do that, is it?
It can take time to find your 'voice' and be heard - but, believe me, it will happen! The more you stop saying 'yes' to everything and give your opinion, the more people will take notice. It just takes time. And perhaps it's time to start widening your circle of friends. Are there any girls at school who you think speak their minds and get respect for it? (not the gobby ones following the crowd!) Maybe befriend some of these and follow their example - or set an example and become the person that everyone wants to be like!
School is not the easiest of times - but things will get better. It just sounds like you're a bit more mature, sensitive (in a good way!) and nicer than some of the girls you hang out with.
From what you've said, you're at school, which can be a horrible time, especially when so-called 'friends' can let you down and be mean. You've just got to remember that you're not the only one feeling this - the most confident bitchy girls at your school are probably only like that because they aren't totally self-confident. They've got to put other people down to try to make out they're more confident than they are, when really they're just following the crowd like sad little sheep - not exactly confident to do that, is it?
It can take time to find your 'voice' and be heard - but, believe me, it will happen! The more you stop saying 'yes' to everything and give your opinion, the more people will take notice. It just takes time. And perhaps it's time to start widening your circle of friends. Are there any girls at school who you think speak their minds and get respect for it? (not the gobby ones following the crowd!) Maybe befriend some of these and follow their example - or set an example and become the person that everyone wants to be like!
School is not the easiest of times - but things will get better. It just sounds like you're a bit more mature, sensitive (in a good way!) and nicer than some of the girls you hang out with.
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