Addiction...

[lovefoolb4u]

surely we have all been in the situation where we are completely addicted to someone, can't stop thinking about them, can't refrain from texting and phoning them..?

Well, I am anyway! And I know it's not good for me, as it's starting to take over my life, but I actually can't help it! When I go for a certain amount of time without texting or phoning this guy, I really miss him and want communication with him... It's not someone who feels the same, he's just a friend. And I don't stalk him or anything like that!

What should I do? Should I just force myself not to get in touch with him, and if so eventually get over him? I don't have enough experience to tell if that would happen.

[andy-hughes]

This situation is both painful and pleasureable - in equal measure.

Whether conciously or not, you are enjoying inflicting this emotional torment on yourself, because although you don't feel in control, you actually are in full control.

This situation is something you can 'enjoy' without it actually going anywhere - your object of desire may well be unaware of your feelings, or aware and does not reciprocate, which means there is no danger of control ever leaving you.

The only problem is if the balance tips, and it starts to affect your in a way that makes you unhappy.

My advice - from experience - is to enjoy the feelings you have as long as you do enjoy them, and this will simply run its course - but there is no guarentee of how long that time will be.

When it has passed, you will look at this man, who has resumed his status as a perfectly normal individual, and not al atll embodied with the god-like power over your waking moments.

If however, it starts to really hurt you, then that is the time to cut off all contac, go 'cold turkey', and get over your feelings.

Hope this helps.

[Octavius]

What is his situation?

Is he single, married, gay, or just not interested in a relationship, or a relationship with you?

Have you thought about telling him how you feel or asking him out?

If as you are saying that he is really not interested - or doesn't feel the same way - then that should really start to put dampners on your passion. If it doesn't then you are in danger obsession, not addiction, and that can lead to stalking.

[razmataz]

I know this feeling.

[lil123]

I think alot of us have been here at one time or another. What I did was gradually wean myself off the person I was addicted to texting so when I did finally stop it wasn''t such a shock so to speak.
I also saved loads not spending it on phone credit lol x