Depression?

[roosi]

You guys will no doubt have an answer to this rather confused babbling..... :)
........I think I may be depressed, I feel like not speaking to anyone if I can possibly help it, I quite like my job although my colleagues try my patience a lot, so I tend not to socialise with them that much. I jsut want to go home or to the gym and work out in a solitary manner. This makes me feel better, I sort of feel a bit teary most of the time, and could quite honestly cry right now although I am not upset. Although I was given quite bad news last week about someone close to me, adn am feeling very worried about this person. I tend to snap at my partner from time to time, and don't mean to as I always go home for a few drinks, and this makes me feel better also. I don't like the way I feel and wish I could stop it as I am one of those people that thinks that there is always someone worse off than me, and gets on with things like I am feeling fine.

Any comments would be great...Sensible comments only though.

Thanks
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[Velvetee]

I feel the same too, but mine is primarily PMS.

On Sunday, I stayed in bed all day, didn't want to see or speak to anyone, including my partner and was so happy, he spent the day out. I was also very nasty to him verbally.

I still feel miserable today and was really ****** off yesterday, as my partner went to collect his 11 year old niece from school, then proceeded to try and dump her on me. This infuriated me, as I felt in no mood to have to try to entertain her. People just don't understand.

Maybe you do have a form of depression, it seems so many people do these days and your state of mind and mood has been worsened by your bad news.

Although the alcohol will make you feel better initially, it will actually make you worse, as alcohol is a depressant. You should perhaps see your GP, but it's good you're continuing to go to the gym, as exercise can help.

[roosi]

Thanks Velvetee, I read your post the other dan felt for you. feel exaactly the same, don't know why as you say drink is no good, but feels like I am relaxing after a long hard day's work!

What are we like, I will keep you up and you can keep me up! LOL

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[skyep]

Hiya roosi - Yes it does sound like depression! Go and see your doctor & tell them everything you have told us here. I hope things improve for you quite soon! Please do go to your doctor though! xxx

[roosi]

Thanks Skyep, I do think you are right.
I don't wanna cause any kind of fuss (ie family and friends knowing I have been to doctor, worrying unecessarily etc), and CERTAINLY don't wanna be put on any sort of medication for it. That's my main fear, I really don't want to be on anti-depressants! How silly does that sound although they would probably fix it, I want to beat it on my own without any help from some pills. That may sound stupid, but I think that's exactly what my doctor will do is just pan me off / give me them.

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[beanebabe]

Try and think about the things that are good in your life! It's easy to dwell on the bad things / things you don't have etc, when really you are probably quite lucky (like me). I have just stopped taking the pill (Cilest) because I was convinced it was giving me Permanent Menstrual Tension, and I do feel better. I also feel much calmer when I am taking the Multibionta multi-vitamins. Have a good chat with your partner about what's bothering you, a problem shared and all that. Failing that, just talk to us! Chin-up, xxxx

[sleepy1]

i get like that some times just dont want to talk to anyone and be left alone ......

[skyep]

Hi roosi! Other than the bad news that you were given last week, has something else happened in your life recently?
Coping with stressful events in life can trigger depression. How long have you felt like this? I went through what you are describing after a fall out with my sister which has resulted in us not communicating with each other anymore. I suppose I went through a kind of 'bereavement' stage, that's the only way I can describe it! I like you fought being given anti - depressants. In the end I came to a conclusion that my relationship with her was basically over & I had to move on for my own sanity! I was offered counseling, may be this could be a route to follow? xxx

[DarkMajes71c]

go see the doc love. if your GP tries to perscribe you anything (it will probably be prozac) say you want to be refered to a specialist at which point he will umm and rrr until you go see the practice councilor for a bit get them to refer you to a psychologist or psychiatrist thats where you will get the best help. I have been through the system unfortunately and i didnt get on well with prozac but when i got to the decent quack they sorted me out properly within 6 months. chin up chick its never as bad as it seems belive me i have been there ;o) xx

[CAJ1]

It isn't always something that has recently happened. I left my ex (who treated me badly) nearly 2 years ago and it took about 6 months after that (and of him harassing me) for me to feel crap just like you do now. I was yelling at people at work and all sorts! I had stress related depression and got anti-depressants (I don't think they work) and stopped taking them. I keep thinking I'm ok now but then a few months down the line I would look back and realise I wasn't which must mean I am getting better but slowly. Just be aware it may not be a recent thing that has happened. I also grind my teeth at night which is a sign of your sub-concious trying to get rid of the stress while you're sleeping because you're not dealing with it. Hope you feel better soon because it's crap! x

[Eve]

Thinks from your past can hit at all kinds of times.

Quite often it's due to chemical things like hormones or happy chemicals.

I have times when I just want to be left to my own devices :)

When I get down I tend to try and step back, blame it on the hormones (reiterate they won't beat you and make you feel crap) and have a word with myself, smile and try and get involved in a conversation about something and get more involved if I'm around people.

I kin dof relax when I put things more in context.

Why not swap the drinks after work for some pampering, a nice long bath or put on a facepack or such.

If you enjoy the gym then why not try some more active stuff, be it with other people or on your own, even just try loads of different things like skiing, riding, canoeing etc... and give yourself something to look forward to and something to plan.

[roosi]

Thanks guys you really have made a lot of sense, and to be honest am trying very hard right now to take a long hard look at the good things in my life rather than the bad. Partner jus gone self employed, mum neurotic big time, dad an alcoholic, sister and I hardly ever talk work is stressful and my wee brother is 21 going on 12 I am the eldest of 3. Think it's time I took a step back your right, I will think hard, partner now aking what I am on here for (he don't know I fel like this YET). Will talk to you guys tomorrow, thanks agian I really appreciate, have a nice evening,

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[roosi]

awwww bless u supastar ,thanks I feel better off just for reading that.

Cooooool, till later

R
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