Bossy girlfriend

[TheRoz]

I have just moved in with my girlfriend to a brand new home of wich she sold here house and the mrtg is in her name only .I have ended up paying all my wages out to her each month as she does not want me on any bills at all but is happy to leave me skint each month what should i do?

[beso]

Keep what you need and only hand over what you can afford.

Work together on a budget that ensures you are both making fair contributions to expenses.

[chas2008]

sounds like shes thinking ahead in case anything goes wrong in the relationship..making sure she comes out of it with everything.Keeping everything in her name makes it easier..
sorry, but thats way i see it

[redcrx]

if the mortgage is in her name then dont pay any of it.

as for bills, work out what they are roughly and start a joint account which you both pay into

[4getmenot]

yes agree with Chas its just easier that way or maybe she just thinks she's helping in a way, I know when my bloke moves in he will just give me half and I will deal with all bills as he's not good with things like that. I hope you are only paying what you need to and not paying for it all. Plus I would demand to see what I am paying for

[Davy_Ewing]

going to sound cheeky here mate but your daft to do that. You are paying off her morgage and at the end of it if she dumps you , you will prob not get anything from it. Either get your name on it now if possible or stop giving her money. wisen up and get out of that situation mate grow some balls.

[lajohn]

same thoughts as Chas's went through my mind when i read your question. i think you need to open your eyes more. have you looked at the total amount of all the bills? what percentage is she contributing towards them?

[mirela]

why you dont just pay your rent and share house bill with her? if the house under her name, she should pay the mortgag herself.

[sam100]

Sorry but i don't agree. I think if you are living in the house then you have to contribute towards living there. If you were not living at hers then you would either have your own mortgage or be paying rent. So this is no difference. You cant live there fore free. Also if she has put a lot of savings on the house then of course it will be in her name...if you got married then im sure she would change it but why would she risk signing over half her house to you when you have JUST moved in.

You maybe paying out all your wages but you didnt say what proportion of the bills you are paying...you could only be earning �20 quid a week...in which case thats not much to give her.

[tiggertan]

I think this is unfair. I know two people in similar situations. One guy refuses to contribute to his girlfriends mortgage as it is in her name only, he pays around �150 pm and buys furniture etc. If they split, I guess he would take the furniture and leave her nothing as she has got shut of the original things. Have you put any of the deposit down?

[Velvetee]

She doesn't want you on any bills, as she doesn't want you to have any claim to the property.

She is not treating you like her partner, but a rent paying tenant, so if I were you, I would agree to pay her a sum of money, which would go towards your rent and upkeep. Better still, I would do a runner and get away from this controlling woman, before she has the shirt off your back too.

[TheRoz]

Sam thanks for that i pay all my wages out do the maths i take home �1400 a month out of that i pay �500 to the CSA for 2 children the rest goes to her except for �100 as that is for phone mobile and life insurence and to keep me with a little change over the month.Let me make a point here i am not interested in her house if we split i would not want anything out of her. I have too �20,000 pound debt from a past relationship to save her from losing her house and that put me into a court to bankcrupt me.
I do not mind paying my way but not all of my way and then have to ask for a handout.
This is the Question i am asking . I paid for funiture and decorating.But as she is only part time by her chioce i knew i had to pay as a partnership but not all .